Anonymous
Post 05/16/2026 00:03     Subject: Gloating
Anonymous wrote:Did you pass your lack of social skills in to your son?


I think society needs to spend less time catering to the obnoxious judging mom types.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 23:22     Subject: Gloating
I get it. I have a kid who always seemed to lag behind due to disability and there were some intense competitive parents in his grade in ES. Some implied kids like mine held their kids back in the classroom or didn’t deserve resources. Once his disability was remediated, he took off academically. He crushed college and is graduating with a double major in a great field. I’m so proud and would love to say “FU” to those parents who doubted him. Still, I won’t celebrate when any child struggles, even if the parent was miserable and braggy. I think sometimes that’s exactly why they burn out before realizing their potential.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 23:17     Subject: Gloating
Did you pass your lack of social skills in to your son?
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 23:00     Subject: Gloating
Anonymous wrote:OP you sound petty and defensive and are not a nice person.


Complete opposite. I’m happy for you and that mom got karma. She got exactly what she deserved!
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 22:22     Subject: Gloating
Yeah, I dunno, OP.

I’m happy your kid is happy. I’ll leave it at that.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 22:22     Subject: Gloating
glad your son is thriving but I’d slow your roll. Gloating about an adult floundering at 24 is frankly much sh1++ier than gloating about math placement in 7th grade. And yes, I have a sn kid.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 22:17     Subject: Gloating
OP you sound petty and defensive and are not a nice person.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 22:14     Subject: Gloating
Anonymous wrote:Did you perhaps misunderstand her concern years ago, OP? As you describe it here, I feel it was genuine. Also, in the light of her own child dropping out, I think years ago she may have been connecting because she secretly knew her child had a vulnerability.

There are many reasons why a parent wouldn't share that their own child also has issues, and sometimes it's because their spouse is in denial and is forcing a blanket moratorium on the topic. My oldest child has a combination of diagnoses, and I have recognized the same issues in some of his peers, yet their parents are often in denial. Usually the father truly is, and the mother is hesitant about forcing an evaluation and treatment, and therefore does not feel comfortable sharing any of her concerns with outsiders. These are the sort of children who tend to struggle as adults, because they've never received the treatments they needed.


So no, I certainly wouldn't gloat. I would feel sorry for her and her child.


I did not misunderstand her "concerns". She thought students with learning disabilities should be kept separate from their neurotypical peers. She voiced it more than once. "Why are THEY even trying?" Her DS and mine were in the same Honors class, and she found it so strange. It was incomprehensible to her that all SN children are different, some have more stamina than others.

Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 20:51     Subject: Gloating
Anonymous wrote:Glad it worked out for you and your son! The ASD kids I know had obnoxious moms and now the kids are pushing 30 and living at home playing video games.


What a terrible thing to say. I, and a lot of mothers of autistic kids I know, did our utmost for your kids. Shame on you.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 20:50     Subject: Gloating
Did you perhaps misunderstand her concern years ago, OP? As you describe it here, I feel it was genuine. Also, in the light of her own child dropping out, I think years ago she may have been connecting because she secretly knew her child had a vulnerability.

There are many reasons why a parent wouldn't share that their own child also has issues, and sometimes it's because their spouse is in denial and is forcing a blanket moratorium on the topic. My oldest child has a combination of diagnoses, and I have recognized the same issues in some of his peers, yet their parents are often in denial. Usually the father truly is, and the mother is hesitant about forcing an evaluation and treatment, and therefore does not feel comfortable sharing any of her concerns with outsiders. These are the sort of children who tend to struggle as adults, because they've never received the treatments they needed.


So no, I certainly wouldn't gloat. I would feel sorry for her and her child.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 20:48     Subject: Gloating
Glad it worked out for you and your son! The ASD kids I know had obnoxious moms and now the kids are pushing 30 and living at home playing video games.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 20:42     Subject: Re:Gloating
Happy for you! I think it’s nice to float once in a while
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 17:31     Subject: Gloating
Anonymous wrote:
My ASD kid is struggling to find a job.



What's his field?
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 17:29     Subject: Gloating

My ASD kid is struggling to find a job.

Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 17:25     Subject: Gloating
Ran into a Mom I knew when my ASD DS went to HS. Back then she was very condescending to me, as in "ooh, poor you, you have a child with disabilities. He won't amount to much." She treated my DS as if he was damaged goods and so did her DS and his friends. She would say things like, "oh, are you sure he should be doing this (like be in HN classes or academic clubs)? Isn't this too much for him?" Well, my DS has successfully graduated from college with an engineering degree, has a job, and his own place. You should've seen her face when I told her. Her DS dropped out of college after his Freshman year and has been living at home all this time.

I will gloat. My "problem child" did not fail to launch. Her star athlete did. To all those who doubt children like mine: FU.