Leave the school. We wouldn’t be there in the first place.

One of our former catholic schools did this and put the funds toward student activities like dances and the prom, which the kids also paid for. It made my kids so mad that they wouldn’t even take the dress down day even if I paid for it.

We are now at two other catholic schools that give regular dress down/spirit days with a variety of parameters. All of them are completely free.

Anonymous wrote:It’s a couple bucks. Chill out.

Not OP, but honestly it has nothing to do with the $$ amount and everything to do with the virtue signaling...

It’s a couple bucks. Chill out.

Catholic K8 and our HSs did this. Sometimes we participated and sometimes we didn’t. It was no big deal. Often DC had to do some chores to earn the $. Once they started earning allowance, they decided if they were going to use their $ for a dress up day. It was typically 3-5$.

I think 90% were external fundraisers. Happy kids were involved in charity throughout their lives. I hope that stays with them.

Anonymous wrote:I have so many issues with my DC's private school but for some reason this has put me over the edge. It's time for our family to vote with our feet.

WTF???!!! -- why would the school ask for a cash contribution during a short giving period in exchange for a child to have a free dress day? So the members of the school community know what kids' families made a contribution? Even if a contribution was made previously that year?

There. Thanks for letting me vent. I hate this F***ING school.

I agree with you. I don’t like this. I would also not be happy if our school did this.

Not gonna lie, when I was in Catholic all girl school, I found those days absolutely exhausting. The condescension around how lucky we were to have the pleasure to choose to spend the day being harassed by teachers for dressing even still within a very strict dress code or for how we couldn't even donate a measly $5 or $2 or whatever it was at the time to the school that ensured we would grow into confident strong women 🙄 needless to say I chose a private education for my child that is neither catholic nor requiring of a uniform.

We used to pay $5 to wear jeans to work on Friday (charity contribution).

I loved it and thought it was a great value.

so make a $2 contribution

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone even read the OP? This was a family contribution to the school? And the kid gets a dress down?

This is really different from paying $2 to dress down for a day and the money goes to like, sports.

No because I'm too lazy, but thanks for pointing it out!

Agree with previous poster. My son gets a free dress down day when he/we make a contribution related to an event at school tied to a charity. It works out well, and my son decides which ones he participates in. But a direct give to a school for dress down is in bad taste.

Did anyone even read the OP? This was a family contribution to the school? And the kid gets a dress down?

This is really different from paying $2 to dress down for a day and the money goes to like, sports.

Our local parish school had this. It cost $3 to buy new books for the library.

Didn’t seem like a big deal to me.

Anonymous wrote:I have so many issues with my DC's private school but for some reason this has put me over the edge. It's time for our family to vote with our feet.

WTF???!!! -- why would the school ask for a cash contribution during a short giving period in exchange for a child to have a free dress day? So the members of the school community know what kids' families made a contribution? Even if a contribution was made previously that year?

There. Thanks for letting me vent. I hate this F***ING school.

That was a thing way back when I went to school in the late 90s early 2000s. Probably not the smartest idea, but we're talking like a couple of $$s

I have so many issues with my DC's private school but for some reason this has put me over the edge. It's time for our family to vote with our feet.

WTF???!!! -- why would the school ask for a cash contribution during a short giving period in exchange for a child to have a free dress day? So the members of the school community know what kids' families made a contribution? Even if a contribution was made previously that year?

There. Thanks for letting me vent. I hate this F***ING school.