You're not being unreasonable, except for the part about working out to lose weight. Cutting calories is for losing weight. That doesn't take extra time. Working out is for strength and conditioning.

No. This is not "going out too much." Your lazy husband can take care of his children on his own 1-2 evenings per week.

Tell him no. No, I will not quit my community organization and I'm gonna keep going to exercise class. Parent your children, men. It's not actually that hard, particularly if you really only have to do it by yourself for a couple hours a week.

Good grief. These cannot be the husbands everyone says we should want.

It’s fine. I’m a working mom and I go to the gym every day. I’d lose my mind without it.

Didn't you already post this several months ago?

You are going out too much.

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Anonymous wrote:No, it's not excessive. What sort of louse of a husband cannot watch their own child for those periods of time? Shame on him.

Ah the man haters have arrived.

The lazy husbands got here first.

Anonymous wrote:No, it's not excessive. What sort of louse of a husband cannot watch their own child for those periods of time? Shame on him.

Ah the man haters have arrived.

No, it's not excessive. What sort of louse of a husband cannot watch their own child for those periods of time? Shame on him.

Are your social activities weekdays or weekday evenings or weekends?

Lets say with commute and class, your fitness outings are 2 hours each and your social outings are 3 hours each, that is 15 hours a month of self-care time you are taking. Is your husband also getting 15 hours a month of self care time to use as he wishes? My guess is his grumbling is more that he doesn't get as much time to himself as you do.

If you each are taking 15 hours to yourselves a month plus he sometimes has to work late, it seems that 2-3 days a week, you don't have together as a family. If this works for both of you, then keep doing it. If he isn't getting his time, rectify that. I don't think you need to stop exercising or seeing friends. I would say kidless and partnerless social outings twice a month during non work hours is more than most parents would be taking.

Well, I mean, it's not like he's wrong when he says his late nights are work and yours are leisure. Does he make a lot more money than you?

Anonymous wrote:Since you are going out 3 times a month, give him 3 afternoon/evening off per month. Are you willing to do that? Otherwise, it seems unfair to him.

She is going out 6 times a month but I agree that he should then also have six chunks of time to himself that are kid / work/ family life free of obligation to do as he wants. That does mean 12 times a month between them which does start to feel like a lot

Since you are going out 3 times a month, give him 3 afternoon/evening off per month. Are you willing to do that? Otherwise, it seems unfair to him.

I also have 3 kids and I don’t know how you have time for that. We have sports every single night of the week and both DH and I are going two opposite directions.

I work out at home 5 days a week. Haven’t gone to a class since grad school.

Go out with friends sans husband maybe once every quarter? It’s impossible to find a date for all of us to get together because everyone is so busy. DH doesn’t complain when I do it - actually encourages it- but it’s just hard to plan!

No, that's not excessive. A grown man can handle a toddler. Presumably you would be okay with him leaving you with the kid once a week to go to the gym and twice a month for something social, right?

yes, i think you are putting too much on him.

Am I doing to much for a working mom?

My husband and I have three children. We both work full time. I attend a fitness class once a week and go out with a social organization twice a month.

He is spazzing out and saying it's too much and wants me to quit both because he has to watch our toddler during the evening on these days.

I am working out because I gained a bit of weight during my last pregnancy. He has a job that sometimes requires him to work late and on the weekends and I never complain.

He is saying it's not the same because that's work and mine is for leisure. Be honest is it crazy to for a working mom with a toddler to go out this much?