Yes. I stayed with him past the point that I knew the relationship had no future because of that.

Yes. In college. He was not marriage material, though.

He was a former college acquaintance I ran into about 7 years later and we became FWB. He was shorter than me but was a college wrestler. He is the only man who ever picked me up, lol. I stopped seeing him before the sex got old, when I met future DH.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Married him.

We're you with many others that weren't as compatible before marrying him? How big of a factor was compatibility in this area before choosing to marry them?

Yes. Married him.

This guy is just good at sex. We're out there.

Everyone partner he has thinks they're compatible with him.

Twice yes. College relationships

Once no. Too small really.

Married but realized too late I was leading everything. Now nothing. Oh well. Sick of leading everything, in the bedroom and out.

Anonymous wrote:I married the first man I was intimate with. Now years later, I'm realising we're not very compatible in the bedroom.

I wonder how many women are in the same situation. Ladies, if he doesn't listen to you and learn in the bedroom, or doesn't make you O regularly, don't marry him! It won't get better after marriage!

Anonymous wrote:Sure, but he was 100% incompatible in like 10 other very important things so I dumped him. There’s more to life than sex!

Hahaha ditto! It was a bummer but the incompatibilities were numerous and I realized that from the get go.

Ex was awesome. But ex for reasons.

Sure, but he was 100% incompatible in like 10 other very important things so I dumped him. There’s more to life than sex!

Compatibility implies there's a mutual fit. He's probably just good at this in general.

I married the first man I was intimate with. Now years later, I'm realising we're not very compatible in the bedroom.

Yes. We were a disaster in other ways but 100% on the same page in the bedroom including preferring quickies and me finishing second via oral. Glorious and still missed many years later.

I’ve been dating a man and this is the first time I’ve felt like I’m 100% sexually compatible with someone.

Yes, good sex requires a lot of communication and expressing your wants. But this is the first time it’s felt like a man is reading my mind and doing exactly what I want, without me ever having to say it. And when I do ask for something, he makes sure to do it over and over again without asking, not just that one time.

This is so different from my previous relationships, where I’d ask for something and sure, he’d do it, but I’d have to ask every single time. Or he’d do it just briefly. Or I felt like I had to constantly give instructions because what we liked sexually was just so different.

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m curious how common it is.