Back in the day, I skipped Prom and all other school sponsored social events. No regrets.

Anonymous wrote:DS is in middle school, so this is purely an observation. I have been noticing in group prom photos being shared that it's 2-1 or 3-1 girls and boys. Some groups have no boys. I haven't seen anything equal or groups of just boys. My friends in other parts of the country are noticing the same thing. Here it's senior prom only and I saw a lot of junior girls going and realized they are going as dates with senior girls (whether as friends or more). No way all of these schools are 70% girls, is this an overall trend?

Why is this a concern for you, boo?

Anonymous wrote:The boys go if they have a date. A lot of the girls who don't have a date still want to go; they want the dress, pictures, flowers etc. So the girls who don't have dates go in groups. Some boys who don't have dates will do the same, but nowhere near as many of them as the girls.

This. There are more girls there overall but yes some boys go.

My boys went to prom, but you will find no evidence of that on line.

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Anonymous wrote:These dances have been hijacked into a whole elaborate performative scene for social media. Promposals, photos, party buses. pre-parties, etc.

It sucks. It’s no longer a fun party. Lots of kids barely go the actual prom. Boys are opting out.

This AND boys minds have been completely corrupted in the way they should treat girls because of SM. Add to that parents who didn’t properly guide them “boys will be boys” parents. Girls on the other hand have also been corrupted by SM - they expect too much

What?

The boys go if they have a date. A lot of the girls who don't have a date still want to go; they want the dress, pictures, flowers etc. So the girls who don't have dates go in groups. Some boys who don't have dates will do the same, but nowhere near as many of them as the girls.

Anonymous wrote:These dances have been hijacked into a whole elaborate performative scene for social media. Promposals, photos, party buses. pre-parties, etc.

It sucks. It’s no longer a fun party. Lots of kids barely go the actual prom. Boys are opting out.

This AND boys minds have been completely corrupted in the way they should treat girls because of SM. Add to that parents who didn’t properly guide them “boys will be boys” parents. Girls on the other hand have also been corrupted by SM - they expect too much

Anonymous wrote:They go they just don't feel the need for all the photos.

This. It's girls posting photos, but boys are there as well

Not new. I went with a group of girls to senior prom. The only boy who asked me was my ex from the previous year, who'd refused to dance at junior prom, but also didn't want me to have fun without him, so I had to sit at the table with him all evening while everyone else was on the dance floor. Not signing up for that again.

The boys I knew didn't go, found dates, or (in his case) went and moped when he was "abandoned" for in favor of dancing.

Anonymous wrote:These dances have been hijacked into a whole elaborate performative scene for social media. Promposals, photos, party buses. pre-parties, etc.

It sucks. It’s no longer a fun party. Lots of kids barely go the actual prom. Boys are opting out.

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They go they just don't feel the need for all the photos.

Maybe if the boys go in a group of boys without girls they don’t take pictures all lined up in a row and make a big deal of it? FWIW on my feed I’ve seen mostly all even groups of boys and girls for the older kids (prom) and some just girls for the younger kids (9th/10th) for homecoming.

These dances have been hijacked into a whole elaborate performative scene for social media. Promposals, photos, party buses. pre-parties, etc.

It sucks. It’s no longer a fun party. Lots of kids barely go the actual prom. Boys are opting out.

My oldest son, who graduated in 2023, went to prom his senior year. My younger son is not going to prom this (his senior) year.

DS is in middle school, so this is purely an observation. I have been noticing in group prom photos being shared that it's 2-1 or 3-1 girls and boys. Some groups have no boys. I haven't seen anything equal or groups of just boys. My friends in other parts of the country are noticing the same thing. Here it's senior prom only and I saw a lot of junior girls going and realized they are going as dates with senior girls (whether as friends or more). No way all of these schools are 70% girls, is this an overall trend?