Another thought. Give them back their energy. Don't do everything for them. Father's Day? What Father's Day?

Another thought. Give them back their energy. Don't do everything for them. Father's Day? What Father's Day?

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Anonymous wrote:I told DH, but I don't think he cares or gets it. It is so weird because he is such a sweet person, but very inconsiderate. Hard to synthesize the two, I just don't get it.

Will talk to DD. I guess from here on out, Mothers Day os on her or it's not happening.

My mother did come to town from few hours away - but to visit a friend. I can't make this up. I just can't.

Sounds like yet another husband on the spectrum. Why are people constantly surprised about this? This is who they are. Take the good with the bad and stop expecting them to act out of character.

How is not giving me a Mothers Day gift equating to being on the spectrum? I'm genuinely curious

"He doesn't care or get it" does that sound like a typical functioning person? Inconsiderate? Hello! Put 2 and 2 together.

Every year.

Had he in past years? Are holidays important to you? Are they important to him? we usually plan these things together. I'm sorry you are hurting, but I think you need a new strategy. Pick something you want to do for mother's day with/without your husband and daughter and do it.

This one is on your teenager. Why does she get an excuse?

Let it go.

You picked him.

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Anonymous wrote:I told DH, but I don't think he cares or gets it. It is so weird because he is such a sweet person, but very inconsiderate. Hard to synthesize the two, I just don't get it.

Will talk to DD. I guess from here on out, Mothers Day os on her or it's not happening.

My mother did come to town from few hours away - but to visit a friend. I can't make this up. I just can't.

Sounds like yet another husband on the spectrum. Why are people constantly surprised about this? This is who they are. Take the good with the bad and stop expecting them to act out of character.

How is not giving me a Mothers Day gift equating to being on the spectrum? I'm genuinely curious

I think the issue is that you aren't being appreciated on a daily basis. And mother's day is just showing you that. So I'd fix the bigger issue.

Anonymous wrote:I told DH, but I don't think he cares or gets it. It is so weird because he is such a sweet person, but very inconsiderate. Hard to synthesize the two, I just don't get it.

Will talk to DD. I guess from here on out, Mothers Day os on her or it's not happening.

My mother did come to town from few hours away - but to visit a friend. I can't make this up. I just can't.

Sounds like yet another husband on the spectrum. Why are people constantly surprised about this? This is who they are. Take the good with the bad and stop expecting them to act out of character.

You should talk to your teen about feeling hurt, as it's obvious your dh is not going to guide her. Next year plan to do something with your teen alone to celebrate, to teach her how to celebrate someone.

Don't bother doing anything for Father's Day this year except work.

I told DH, but I don't think he cares or gets it. It is so weird because he is such a sweet person, but very inconsiderate. Hard to synthesize the two, I just don't get it.

Will talk to DD. I guess from here on out, Mothers Day os on her or it's not happening.

My mother did come to town from few hours away - but to visit a friend. I can't make this up. I just can't.

I’m sorry. I can understand why you’re hurt. At least you’re off the hook for Father’s Day.
I think it’s ok to explain to your teen DD that you’re hurt. Yes, teens are self-centered, but they can at least say “Happy Mother’s Day”. I think that’s worse than your DH because you are not his mother. But I think you should sit down with your DH and also explain that you feel unappreciated in general.

My husband gave me nothing for Mother's Day. He worked until 8pm then came home at 830pm. I called him shocked he left me nothing. He said he would pick up at card when came home (like home around 9pm then). I said forget it. Teen daughter did nothing either, but, at least she is just a typical self centered teen. I am the breadwinner, I work 6 to 7 days a week, I am the cook, maid, shopper, I just cannot believe this. I am so sad.