Stay out of it.

I would tell. I was in a similar situation with a friend of mine. Didn’t tell. She went on having 2 more kids with him only to bet dumped for a newer model in 10 years and a very painful divorce

I’m another vote for tell her. She can decide what to do with the information.

I think you should tell her. I was in the same situation and feel guilty for not somehow reaching out, although in my situation I was the one who went on a date with the cheating husband. I Googled his name afterward and eventually found his pregnant wife.

The husband sounds sufficiently indiscreet, it will only be a matter of time before she learns from another source.

I’d want to know so I wouldn’t waste any more time being married to an unfaithful loser.

Anonymous wrote:As someone whose (now ex) H cheated while I was pregnant, I would absolutely want to know.

First of all, STDs are extremely dangerous for babies.

Second, I found out eventually. I would have rather found out earlier, especially before the baby was born so I could have made better arrangements and not been dealing with the cheating postpartum.

You need to tell her, not for her, but for the health of her children.

As someone whose (now ex) H cheated while I was pregnant, I would absolutely want to know.

First of all, STDs are extremely dangerous for babies.

Second, I found out eventually. I would have rather found out earlier, especially before the baby was born so I could have made better arrangements and not been dealing with the cheating postpartum.

I wouldn’t want to know that my husband cheated on me, so no.

Anonymous wrote:How will you explain that you cyber stalked her for no reason?

id explain exactly how I did here. Saw her post, clicked out of curiosity, recognized the man in the profile pic.

Absolutely not at this time, or really ever. Leave the poor girl alone.

Anonymous wrote:I would stay out of it. Mostly because you don't know why he was doing what he was doing (dating your friend). I feel bad for her though.

Me too. She’s REALLY young; much younger than her husband/my friend/me. You’re right, though, perhaps she knows. Probably not, though.

How will you explain that you cyber stalked her for no reason?

I would stay out of it. Mostly because you don't know why he was doing what he was doing (dating your friend). I feel bad for her though.

I’m in a large local FB group, and a woman posted looking for an in-home nanny for her 6mo, and eventually for another baby due this October. I clicked her profile out of curiosity and immediately recognized her husband from his profile photo.

Turns out he’s the same guy my friend casually dated for a couple weeks back in March. We even met him once at a small event before he abruptly ghosted her. My friend had absolutely no idea he was married and, at the time, had a 4mo and a pregnant wife.

I showed my friend the FB profile to confirm, and yes, it’s definitely him, real first name and all.

I asked my friend whether we should somehow tell the wife, but she wants no involvement. I don’t know this woman at all and wouldn’t otherwise be connected to her, and my friend isn’t on FB so no connection there. I’m just a random stranger.

Would you message her anonymously or stay out of it? Part of me feels awful for her, especially with a baby and another on the way, but part of me thinks maybe it’s not my place?