Anonymous wrote:Call it what it is. "Sex", not the euphemism "intimacy." The key to solving relationship problems is trying to learn to communicate better. If you can't even use the correct words, you're way behind in that area.

Sounds like there is no emotional intimacy or sex in OP’s relationship and she wants both.

Call it what it is. "Sex", not the euphemism "intimacy." The key to solving relationship problems is trying to learn to communicate better. If you can't even use the correct words, you're way behind in that area.

who would not*

I had a gf who would give head and that was a deal breaker for me.

I could not do it with my ex-gf since she was not doing enough in the relationship and always bitter/anger or complained about her being fat or work, etc. I don't care if someone is big but a whiner is such a huge turn-off.

Anonymous wrote:Trust would have to be earned back.

For me my spouse had such terrible anger problems I never felt safe around him again. So to be vulnerable and have or give intimacy was something I physically and mentally could not do with him.

Yes, trust has to be earned; but the first question is why did spouse check out? I would start with a sincere apology and actions that indicate sincerity and improvement. If spouse checked out, what was he/she asking for that you were unwilling/unable to give?

Anonymous wrote:Is it possible to bring intimacy back if one spouse is almost checked out of marriage emotionally?

No

Good luck!

Trust would have to be earned back.

For me my spouse had such terrible anger problems I never felt safe around him again. So to be vulnerable and have or give intimacy was something I physically and mentally could not do with him.

Are you male or female?

Not that I have seen. Make your decisions based on reality, not hope.

The laughter goes, the sex goes, then the house goes.

Is it possible to bring intimacy back if one spouse is almost checked out of marriage emotionally?