I'm 46 and had a great run of looking youthful until now. This is the first year where I can see myself aging.

It's humbling.

Make sure you get all necessary bloodwork, and take a multivitamin supplement.

If your doctor dismisses your concerns out of hand, find a new practitioner. I’m not even a doc, but I do have thyroid issues and thinning hair, fatigue, weird weight gain is like textbook hypothyroidism. Since it can coincide with perimenopause it gets overlooked, ime. At the very least your doctor should be asking questions and not just saying ‘welp, it’s just that time of life’. Get a full panel blood test to include TSH.

Focus on maintenance — taking care of my teeth, exercising (strength, cardio and mobility) etc

I think about my friend who passed away at 39 and won’t see her children grow up and thank my lucky stars that I am still alive.

Force myself to practice gratitude. Write down at least one thing every day I'm grateful for. It was annoying to start but it does help.

Focus on good hair, makeup, and clothes.

Q: How do I cope with aging?
A: Not well

I was 48 when I decided to make exercise a true habit and not a thing I dabbled in here and there. The game-changer for me was barre . . . never less often than three days a week, and I committed myself to putting 100% into every class. Ten years later and over 1500 classes later, I'm in the best shape I've been in since having children. It took time, patience, and work to get here, but I'm so glad that I stuck with it!

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Anonymous wrote:HRT

This!!! I'm too old for it. But it's really making a difference for my friends .

Personally, I focus on health in terms of whole foods, exercise, sunscreen, strength training. I think healthy skin, regardless of wrinkles, makes you look vibrant. My body is far from perfect in shape but it's strong and has great stamina. I am about to be 60. I feel better about myself than I have in about 30 years.

You are not too old for HRT or too old to start. My mom is 81 and still doing HRT.

I try to eat healthily, wear moisturizer, and buy clothes and makeup that suit my body now. When I feel down I remember my friends and colleagues who didn’t make it this far. If you don’t know many now, you will in a few years.

Anonymous wrote:HRT

This!!! I'm too old for it. But it's really making a difference for my friends .

Personally, I focus on health in terms of whole foods, exercise, sunscreen, strength training. I think healthy skin, regardless of wrinkles, makes you look vibrant. My body is far from perfect in shape but it's strong and has great stamina. I am about to be 60. I feel better about myself than I have in about 30 years.

Anonymous wrote:I pay I don't die. Everything else is icing on the cake. PS Nobody gets out of here alive.

Botox, clean eating and avoiding seed oils.

"pay I don't day"? pray?

HRT

I pay I don't die. Everything else is icing on the cake. PS Nobody gets out of here alive.

Botox, clean eating and avoiding seed oils.

I’m 45 and starting to look really masculine, and it’s honestly tanking my self-esteem. I used to be a pear shape, but now I’m turning into an apple. My hair is thinning, my voice is getting deeper, and being 5'11 doesn't help . I just feel like I'm losing my femininity. I tried a GLP-1, but it made me look like a skeleton. My face used to be cute and chubby, but now it’s just long and gaunt. I’m exhausted, too. I can sleep for 10 hours and still wake up tired. I went to the doctor and they said nothing is wrong besides perimenopause, but whenever I try to gain weight, it goes to all the wrong areas . I tried weightlifting and pilates, but they didn't help with any of these issues.
I’m thinking about getting some cosmetic surgery, like a fat transfer to my face, a skinny BBL, and Sculptra, but I’m scared of looking fake or jarring like I see with so many influencers and celebrities.