Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 16:20     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit and beautiful recently divorced 39 year old woman. I am looking to marry again and am on the market and would like to be intentional. I have a full time job at a Fortune 500 company, I’m told I’m beautiful and look like I’m 32. I exercise, eat healthy and keep a beautiful home. I’m close to my family and love to travel and go to museums and the theatre. I’m a great cook and I love sex!

Here is what I’m looking for:

- good character
- intelligence
- good income: 200k +
- Wants family and children
- Interested in health and wellness
- Makes me feel seen and understood
- Good attitude and mindset
- Wants to travel
- Emotional regulation
- Is ambitious and has goals and vision for our life
- Well educated
- Intentional dater who makes plans and follows through

I don’t think I’m asking for too much as …I’m worth it.


DCUM sucks now. This is so obviously a troll.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 16:09     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Your time has basically run out Op. If children are important, have them solo
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 16:05     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Since you didn’t say tall and good looking.
You have a lot of options.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 16:00     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Anonymous wrote:Your list is very reasonable. You aren’t asking for too much. You are actually asking very little.
This makes me question your claim that you are beautiful. Beautiful 39 year old women would be asking for much more.
If you are fit and as attractive as you mentioned, men will line up to have you.


Beauty is very subjective.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 16:00     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit and beautiful recently divorced 39 year old woman. I am looking to marry again and am on the market and would like to be intentional. I have a full time job at a Fortune 500 company, I’m told I’m beautiful and look like I’m 32. I exercise, eat healthy and keep a beautiful home. I’m close to my family and love to travel and go to museums and the theatre. I’m a great cook and I love sex!

Here is what I’m looking for:

- good character
- intelligence
- good income: 200k +
- Wants family and children
- Interested in health and wellness
- Makes me feel seen and understood
- Good attitude and mindset
- Wants to travel
- Emotional regulation
- Is ambitious and has goals and vision for our life
- Well educated
- Intentional dater who makes plans and follows through

I don’t think I’m asking for too much as …I’m worth it.


It’s likely not going to work out for you. You have a lot going for yourself and should continue living a great life solo. if someone wonderful comes along great, but you shouldn’t be focused on finding it. You should cultivate joy with what is.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 15:47     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

You sound great, but there simply are not a large number of men who want to start a family with a 39-year-old. You'll be 40 by the time you're ready to even try. You're worth it but that's not the point-- the point is there aren't a lot of fish in this particular pond regardless of how wonderful you think you are.

Therefore, you'll need to cut back your wish list. I see no reason you need him to make $200+, if you make that much. You're boxing out a lot of guys who make $175-ish and that's a mistake if you're looking for someone to be an involved father.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 15:43     Subject: Re:39F: Wish List for a Husband

You sound like a good catch OP - - I wish you only the best in finding a great, potential romantic 💘 partner!
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 15:36     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Your list describes DH and I'm definitely not as good looking as you describe yourself. So I don't think it's too much to ask. I'd just make sure you take a look at what led to the divorce, whether it was communication issues, you overlooking red flags, etc and make sure you have that in check.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 15:23     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

What led to your divorce?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 15:21     Subject: Re:39F: Wish List for a Husband

Do you have kids? Want kids?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 15:17     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Your list is very reasonable. You aren’t asking for too much. You are actually asking very little.
This makes me question your claim that you are beautiful. Beautiful 39 year old women would be asking for much more.
If you are fit and as attractive as you mentioned, men will line up to have you.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 14:58     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

You need to be open to men who are up to 7 years younger and up to 15 years older.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 14:57     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

Not too much, but I'd be a little flexible on the income. If you make good money, why eliminate the hardworking teachers and nurses of the world?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 14:51     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

If they want children, they should marry younger unless they already have some. Other than that your list is reasonable.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2026 14:36     Subject: 39F: Wish List for a Husband

I’m a fit and beautiful recently divorced 39 year old woman. I am looking to marry again and am on the market and would like to be intentional. I have a full time job at a Fortune 500 company, I’m told I’m beautiful and look like I’m 32. I exercise, eat healthy and keep a beautiful home. I’m close to my family and love to travel and go to museums and the theatre. I’m a great cook and I love sex!

Here is what I’m looking for:

- good character
- intelligence
- good income: 200k +
- Wants family and children
- Interested in health and wellness
- Makes me feel seen and understood
- Good attitude and mindset
- Wants to travel
- Emotional regulation
- Is ambitious and has goals and vision for our life
- Well educated
- Intentional dater who makes plans and follows through

I don’t think I’m asking for too much as …I’m worth it.