Most days I do nearly nothing. I'm just a lazy person.

Yes, but I’m 32.

yes this is most of the time and I have a friend a few year younger than me that has none of these symptoms and acts like I never do anything she just doesn't get it at all.

Most days, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks everyone. I don't think I would fully retire if I could, just wish I could find a unicorn of a job that was enough hours a week to get health insurance with moderate to low stress and zero take-home work. I'd probably still be tired but I might have the will to do anything, which is pretty much gone now. And it wasn't this way even at 45 but my late 40s have been a whole different story.

How much do you need to make with your unicorn job? I have a couple fully remote employees in coordinator/admin roles...they work 37.5 hours a week and gets full benefits. The only kicker is that these roles in my company don't pay great because they are fully remote assistant jobs. The best people have actually been my pre-retirement type employees who are in their 50s and are super capable writers and super professional/responsive but are looking to step down and take something remote.

OP: I meant to add that I sympathize with all of you and I'm happy to have your company even if it sucks for all of us!

OP here, thanks everyone. I don't think I would fully retire if I could, just wish I could find a unicorn of a job that was enough hours a week to get health insurance with moderate to low stress and zero take-home work. I'd probably still be tired but I might have the will to do anything, which is pretty much gone now. And it wasn't this way even at 45 but my late 40s have been a whole different story.

I'm having one right now. Still in bed in pajamas but unfortunately have a work event tonight.

In my case part of it is that I hate driving and commuting (public transit is tough too) and it burns me out...after commuting all week and taking kids to sports practices, we went to an event last night and spent 90+ minutes to go 18 miles in traffic. Getting back was less traffic but lots of terrible drivers and rain late at night.

Anonymous wrote:Yes to your subject line.

I don’t know if it’s normal.

And coming back to this, I’m 48, have maybe one week out of the month where I have the energy levels I did when I was in my 20’s (the week after getting my period). Then the hormone fluctuations get me - I’m tired, sluggish, no motivation, etc. I eat healthy with adequate protein and work out regularly (mostly strength training).

Yes, same here OP.

My younger coworkers ask what we did on the weekends, honey, we sleep. And we have to work until at least age 67.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 60 and I feel this way more weekends than not. I'm healthy, exercise regularly, lift weights, eat pretty well, still in normal BMI range, though my weight has crept up in menopause. But I work a fulltime demanding job and by Saturday, I'm tired.

I think what I really need to do is go to bed at 9:30 each night.

I mean, what I really need to do is retire, but sadly that is several years away.

I'm 60 and I feel this way more weekends than not. I'm healthy, exercise regularly, lift weights, eat pretty well, still in normal BMI range, though my weight has crept up in menopause. But I work a fulltime demanding job and by Saturday, I'm tired.

I think what I really need to do is go to bed at 9:30 each night.

Yes to your subject line.

I don’t know if it’s normal.

49, work full time, demanding job. Went out last night (not typical for a Friday) and had a great time and I have been on my couch for 5 hours now and I have no will to do anything. I have things I need to/am supposed to be doing and I don't care. I used to live for weekends and constantly be on the go but I have never felt this level of exhaustion or lack of any motivation. Is this a normal part of perimenopause? Aging in general?