Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 17:08     Subject: Problematic drinking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Al anon is exactly the group to help you cope with being married to a problem drinker.


OP here. Thank you. I think I keep hoping it will get better but it just repeats itself.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 16:00     Subject: Problematic drinking
Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Al anon is exactly the group to help you cope with being married to a problem drinker.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:58     Subject: Problematic drinking
He is an alcoholic and needs psychiatric help, not just to avoid bad behavior or accidents but to stay physically, mentally, maritally, professionally and socially healthy. Alcohol is a medically proven toxin, no longer veiled by a cover of social lubricant.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:58     Subject: Problematic drinking
Anonymous wrote:He’s a dry drunk. This always gets worse. Draw some hard lines and be prepared for him to push back.

A dry drunk is someone who quit drinking, but still acts like a drunk a hole.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:57     Subject: Problematic drinking
Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.

Binge drinking disorder
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:56     Subject: Problematic drinking
Alcohol Use Disorder
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:53     Subject: Problematic drinking
It is called alcoholism.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:51     Subject: Re:Problematic drinking
That's still alcoholic drinking.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:29     Subject: Problematic drinking
If he's driving, have him arrested, it's far better than having him kill somebody. If he's abusive at home, again, have him arrested. Record him when he's drunk, you will need to get custody of the kids. It's possible he can be "fixed", but more likely when you leave you'll be wishing you had done it long before.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 15:00     Subject: Problematic drinking

He’s an alcoholic.
You do nothing. He needs to address his issue.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 14:59     Subject: Problematic drinking
Anonymous wrote:If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.


Out of curiosity, where does he do the drinking, what stokes his binging? Or is it totally random? Is this at home? Only during golf season while playing with pals? During and after work trips?
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 14:41     Subject: Problematic drinking
Anonymous wrote:He’s a dry drunk. This always gets worse. Draw some hard lines and be prepared for him to push back.


I have been trying for ten years, it gets better than worse, then better.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 14:38     Subject: Problematic drinking
He’s a dry drunk. This always gets worse. Draw some hard lines and be prepared for him to push back.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 14:25     Subject: Problematic drinking
If it ever happens it’s too often.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2026 14:24     Subject: Problematic drinking
If your DH only drinks every few months, but when he does it is almost always bad (he can't stop, is mean, dangerous to himself and others, blackouts, etc), what is this called? Alcoholism seems too dramatic but I know it's problematic. How do I help myself with this? Al-Anon feels extreme because it isn't so often.