Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the non custodial parent asking to be on forms? If not, I wouldn't put them on. If you're okay with them knowing the school name I'd just text them a screenshot of report cards and leave it at that.

I don't really think that the non custodial parent is thinking about the kid much at all. They are not asking, but I could easily see them getting offended at being left off.

If you leave him off and cut him out of the kids life at least be decent and stop taking his money.

Hey Angry Single Dad Troll! Where are you now? Any thoughts now that OP has clarified that the NCP is the mom? But actually, no one cares about your repetitive garbage posting in all threads. Just please GTFO.

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

There are lots of weird assumptions here. First, the speed to which posters here jump to the idea that a parent who doesn't see their kids, either because they don't choose to (this situation), or because the court ordered it, should be absolved of all financial responsibility is absurd.

In this case, the custodial parent is male, a family member of mine. He's asking my advice because I've been single parenting longer, but my situation is different because my kids have a restraining order and zero contact.

What does his parenting plan say? Mine says both parents are to be listed as emergency contacts.

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

There are lots of weird assumptions here. First, the speed to which posters here jump to the idea that a parent who doesn't see their kids, either because they don't choose to (this situation), or because the court ordered it, should be absolved of all financial responsibility is absurd.

In this case, the custodial parent is male, a family member of mine. He's asking my advice because I've been single parenting longer, but my situation is different because my kids have a restraining order and zero contact.

Yes you list them, regardless of gender they are still the child’s parent.

I never listed my DS’ dad, but we did move out of state (I had the right to relocate)

I’m not at a final parenting plan yet, but during a very flawed custody evaluation (that was dismissed) the evaluator had made specific statements saying that the other parent had to be listed as emergency contact #1 for all forms. One of the many reasons it was dismissed is because many forms only allowed 1 or 2 emergency contacts so putting that parent there created what they call in family law a “ghost parent” situation because that parent was traveling >100 days per year on an erratic and secretive schedule.

Anyway, based on that I think it is a thing that gets addressed in many difficult custody situations and if it wasn’t addressed, it’s going to create problems. I don’t know that you could easily get modification for that, though. In my jurisdiction a judge would probably toss a filing for something that “minor” even though it’s not minor at all.

OP here,

There are lots of weird assumptions here. First, the speed to which posters here jump to the idea that a parent who doesn't see their kids, either because they don't choose to (this situation), or because the court ordered it, should be absolved of all financial responsibility is absurd.

In this case, the custodial parent is male, a family member of mine. He's asking my advice because I've been single parenting longer, but my situation is different because my kids have a restraining order and zero contact.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the non custodial parent asking to be on forms? If not, I wouldn't put them on. If you're okay with them knowing the school name I'd just text them a screenshot of report cards and leave it at that.

I don't really think that the non custodial parent is thinking about the kid much at all. They are not asking, but I could easily see them getting offended at being left off.

If you leave him off and cut him out of the kids life at least be decent and stop taking his money.

Get lost with your money. No custody and not paying child-support go together quite often. Yes, she can stop taking money she doesn't even get as long as we are guessing.

OP, only you know if he wants to be called, can go to school, or will even pick up the phone.
We don't know the person.
Is he allowed to be alone with the kids even?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the non custodial parent asking to be on forms? If not, I wouldn't put them on. If you're okay with them knowing the school name I'd just text them a screenshot of report cards and leave it at that.

I don't really think that the non custodial parent is thinking about the kid much at all. They are not asking, but I could easily see them getting offended at being left off.

If you leave him off and cut him out of the kids life at least be decent and stop taking his money.

He is still the parent. He is dad, not a random relative.

Anonymous wrote:if he doesn't have physical or legal custody... then he's just a non custodial relative without any rights. like a grandma or an uncle or an older cousin. basically, put anyone you want as the emergency contact. your child only has one legal guardian, and it's you.

This isn't right. A parent without custody still has parental rights. For example, if she arrived at the child's school, she could pick the child up. Only termination of parental rights, or a restraining order, would change that.

Anonymous wrote:Is the non custodial parent asking to be on forms? If not, I wouldn't put them on. If you're okay with them knowing the school name I'd just text them a screenshot of report cards and leave it at that.

I don't really think that the non custodial parent is thinking about the kid much at all. They are not asking, but I could easily see them getting offended at being left off.

if he doesn't have physical or legal custody... then he's just a non custodial relative without any rights. like a grandma or an uncle or an older cousin. basically, put anyone you want as the emergency contact. your child only has one legal guardian, and it's you.

Is the non custodial parent asking to be on forms? If not, I wouldn't put them on. If you're okay with them knowing the school name I'd just text them a screenshot of report cards and leave it at that.

If you have sole physical custody and decision making, but your ex sees your kids occasionally and there is no restraining order, do you list them on school forms? If so, do you put all the info, or just the name?

In an emergency, if they couldn't reach the custodial parent, then calling the emergency contact would be far better than calling the non-custodial parent.