Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

Aside from some of the hyperbole, this lines up with my experience at a prestigious boarding school in the 90's. I was UMC and really did not comprehend fully the level of wealth and the social networks of a certain group of the uber-wealthy kids. They all kind of knew each other even though they grew up in different places like Palm Beach, Paris, and Central Park West. I realized later it was even more than a country club type of thing -- it was an old money social circle thing. There was no way to truly break into it. Those kids had "friends" who were UMC but they were friends during the school year only. The friendships didn't endure after high school. And because a lot of those kids did not move on to typical careers (they don't really have to work but some of them "start companies") they were actually not even all that helpful from a networking perspective. More helpful in that sense were the UMC kids who ended up at top schools and are now heads of whatever at various banks or in politics.

Most of the kids who came from the old money circles were very polite and appropriate and would never have come out and said any of the above. Except for one guy who was quite clear once to a UMC friend of mine that he could sleep with (not the more explicit phrase he used) girls like her but he could never date her or marry her because it wouldn't fly in his social circle.

Anonymous wrote:I wondered if there would be a little networking benefit when we entered private, but my kid seems to have a knack for being besties with the solidly middle class kids. There does seem to be an inner circle of rich kids with powerful parents, along with some moms who are UMC but seem desperate for their kids to remain close friends with the power players. My kid is friendly with the circle (and with most other kids), but not an inner circle kid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

Aside from some of the hyperbole, this lines up with my experience at a prestigious boarding school in the 90's. I was UMC and really did not comprehend fully the level of wealth and the social networks of a certain group of the uber-wealthy kids. They all kind of knew each other even though they grew up in different places like Palm Beach, Paris, and Central Park West. I realized later it was even more than a country club type of thing -- it was an old money social circle thing. There was no way to truly break into it. Those kids had "friends" who were UMC but they were friends during the school year only. The friendships didn't endure after high school. And because a lot of those kids did not move on to typical careers (they don't really have to work but some of them "start companies") they were actually not even all that helpful from a networking perspective. More helpful in that sense were the UMC kids who ended up at top schools and are now heads of whatever at various banks or in politics.

Most of the kids who came from the old money circles were very polite and appropriate and would never have come out and said any of the above. Except for one guy who was quite clear once to a UMC friend of mine that he could sleep with (not the more explicit phrase he used) girls like her but he could never date her or marry her because it wouldn't fly in his social circle.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

Anonymous wrote:Gosh, I could see networking to get into a private school, but getting into a private school to network, hmm.

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be viewed as joining a country club. Do you like the culture and types of families there or not? Are these the types of kids you want your own kids to be around? Do you already have friends who are parents at that school?

Typically when you join a club, you know at least some of the members. When you join a school you rarely know who your kid's class will have in it and that is your main cohort.

Anonymous wrote:It can be viewed as joining a country club. Do you like the culture and types of families there or not? Are these the types of kids you want your own kids to be around? Do you already have friends who are parents at that school?