Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:46
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
IMHO, the idea of an engagement ring is entirely unromantic so just do whatever
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:44
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
We looked online together, so I picked out the style. He picked the stones and did the purchase, knowing what I wanted it to look like.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:43
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Anonymous wrote:I asked without a ring and then we went to a designer. Worked well.
That's what we did ask well. Took pics to announce after we picked up the ring together.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:42
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. I know lots of couples who went ring shopping together. My DH and I did and I picked out the ring/setting together. He followed up with the jeweler, picked out the stone, bought it and then planned the proposal.
OP, no I mean I pick it out on my own. I don’t want to shop together (that sounds awful by the way - my partner is not materialistic and hates shopping, and I am sloooow and would want to go everywhere and look online and read reviews, etc).
Shallow marrying Non-materialistic.
What could go wrong?
Don't be nasty.
OP, do your own research and find your One Ring, and then bring your fiance back with you to show it to him. Seems like a great plan!
This whole stupidity of having men chose for their future wives is so misogynist. Are women fine with wearing something for years that they didn't select themselves, and that might not be entirely to their taste? It should not be a litmus test that a man should divine exactly what ring his girlfriend wants. It's not just color preference or setting preference - some ring shapes/designs just aren't comfortable to wear, and that's not something men necessarily think about, since most won't even think of trying on the ring themselves.
I encourage all women to try on multiple rings, and then decide.
One ring to rule them all,
one ring to find them,
One ring to bring them all
and in the darkness bind them.
Yes I was referencing Tolkien, PP. In a lighthearted way.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:41
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
I asked without a ring and then we went to a designer. Worked well.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:40
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. I know lots of couples who went ring shopping together. My DH and I did and I picked out the ring/setting together. He followed up with the jeweler, picked out the stone, bought it and then planned the proposal.
OP, no I mean I pick it out on my own. I don’t want to shop together (that sounds awful by the way - my partner is not materialistic and hates shopping, and I am sloooow and would want to go everywhere and look online and read reviews, etc).
Shallow marrying Non-materialistic.
What could go wrong?
Don't be nasty.
OP, do your own research and find your One Ring, and then bring your fiance back with you to show it to him. Seems like a great plan!
This whole stupidity of having men chose for their future wives is so misogynist. Are women fine with wearing something for years that they didn't select themselves, and that might not be entirely to their taste? It should not be a litmus test that a man should divine exactly what ring his girlfriend wants. It's not just color preference or setting preference - some ring shapes/designs just aren't comfortable to wear, and that's not something men necessarily think about, since most won't even think of trying on the ring themselves.
I encourage all women to try on multiple rings, and then decide.
One ring to rule them all,
one ring to find them,
One ring to bring them all
and in the darkness bind them.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:36
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. I know lots of couples who went ring shopping together. My DH and I did and I picked out the ring/setting together. He followed up with the jeweler, picked out the stone, bought it and then planned the proposal.
OP, no I mean I pick it out on my own. I don’t want to shop together (that sounds awful by the way - my partner is not materialistic and hates shopping, and I am sloooow and would want to go everywhere and look online and read reviews, etc).
Shallow marrying Non-materialistic.
What could go wrong?
Don't be nasty.
OP, do your own research and find your One Ring, and then bring your fiance back with you to show it to him. Seems like a great plan!
This whole stupidity of having men chose for their future wives is so misogynist. Are women fine with wearing something for years that they didn't select themselves, and that might not be entirely to their taste? It should not be a litmus test that a man should divine exactly what ring his girlfriend wants. It's not just color preference or setting preference - some ring shapes/designs just aren't comfortable to wear, and that's not something men necessarily think about, since most won't even think of trying on the ring themselves.
I encourage all women to try on multiple rings, and then decide.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:34
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
DeBeers doesn't care who buys the ring, as long as you spend three months' salary.
It's not romantic either way.
Am I totally unromantic if I choose it myself and just leave the proposal part up to my partner?
It's not romantic either way.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:33
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Yes, my dh and I went to the jewelry store together and actually had the rign designed.
He asked me to marry him a month before, and I did not need a ring for the proposal. It wasn't a big social media showy thing.
If we were getting engaged now, I would do it the same way, and then just do a staged picture with the finished ring for our official social media engagement announcement.
I prefer to have something I plan to wear for years instead of a surprise.
He asked me to marry him a month before, and I did not need a ring for the proposal. It wasn't a big social media showy thing.
If we were getting engaged now, I would do it the same way, and then just do a staged picture with the finished ring for our official social media engagement announcement.
I prefer to have something I plan to wear for years instead of a surprise.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:28
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Nope.
Husband listens well.
Husband listens well.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:28
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes. I know lots of couples who went ring shopping together. My DH and I did and I picked out the ring/setting together. He followed up with the jeweler, picked out the stone, bought it and then planned the proposal.
OP, no I mean I pick it out on my own. I don’t want to shop together (that sounds awful by the way - my partner is not materialistic and hates shopping, and I am sloooow and would want to go everywhere and look online and read reviews, etc).
Shallow marrying Non-materialistic.
What could go wrong?
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:26
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. I know lots of couples who went ring shopping together. My DH and I did and I picked out the ring/setting together. He followed up with the jeweler, picked out the stone, bought it and then planned the proposal.
OP, no I mean I pick it out on my own. I don’t want to shop together (that sounds awful by the way - my partner is not materialistic and hates shopping, and I am sloooow and would want to go everywhere and look online and read reviews, etc).
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:25
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
I'm very picky. I would never let anyone choose jewelry for me. I sketched the ring out, we went to a jeweler's who made the ring, DH went to a diamond seller to buy the diamond, it was put together, done. He proposed with the ring in a joking way, because he'd already proposed on our second date with a rose from his garden - and that was the proposal that mattered.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:24
Subject: Re:Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
Yes. I know lots of couples who went ring shopping together. My DH and I did and I picked out the ring/setting together. He followed up with the jeweler, picked out the stone, bought it and then planned the proposal.
Anonymous
04/15/2026 14:22
Subject: Did anyone pick out an engagement ring and just tell their fiancé to buy it and do the proposal part?
I want to choose my own ring. Am I totally unromantic if I choose it myself and just leave the proposal part up to my partner? He stray gave me a beautiful promise ring which I wear on my right hand. But I admit I’m shallow and still want a traditional diamond solitaire (will buy lab).