Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:32     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
I’m sure I’ll get crap for this, but I just straight up tell her no. In our house it is not appropriate for a 12 year old to wear crop tops to school. End of conversation. We’re British so maybe our standards for school attire are a bit different
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:29     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
You accept tears and pouting. That's parenting. The tears would worry me though, that's ridiculous.

Your DD doesn't have enough serious going on.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:29     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
doesn't the school have a dress code?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:28     Subject: Re:7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
I bought my daughter this age one top like this and she wears it once in a while. Not saying this is the right answer but the earth kept spinning.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:26     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Wait until high school. Age 12 is way too young.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:24     Subject: Re:7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t allow for school, at that age. My DD had a few she was allowed to wear outside of school.

That said, I loosened up once she reached high school. IMHO at some point you have to let the fashion/clothing choices go. I felt 7th grade was too young but I don’t think there is a “right” answer. It is a balance.


OP here. This exactly. I think by high school it would be ok but age 12 in 7th is too young.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 14:18     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Anonymous wrote:Meh, I'd let her wear what she wants. Stomachs aren't private parts. FWIW I have two girls- one middle and one high schooler. They've worn them on and off. They are trying to figure out what they are comfortable in, and I don't think it's helpful to get overly involved in that.


Lax parenting... so trendy and yet so ineffective.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:54     Subject: Re:7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
I didn’t allow for school, at that age. My DD had a few she was allowed to wear outside of school.

That said, I loosened up once she reached high school. IMHO at some point you have to let the fashion/clothing choices go. I felt 7th grade was too young but I don’t think there is a “right” answer. It is a balance.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:54     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Anonymous wrote:All of a sudden out of nowhere my DD is begging for new shirts that she sees a lot of girls wearing in middle school. Fitted crop tops, off the shoulder tops…I’m not comfortable with it. I’ve talked to her about it and I get tears and pouting. Not sure how to handle. Any advice?


Just her this top
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:50     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Can you go shopping together and find some compromise items? When she tries stuff on, have her do lots of "move around" tests - sometimes I've preempted questionable clothing just by having DD figure out it's not actually functional to wear!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:17     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Anonymous wrote:Maybe compromise and give her some stipulations. For instance: no more than 2 inches midriff showing, must have short or long sleeves, no tank crops. Must fully cover bra.


I like this idea.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:15     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
When I was a teen and wanted clothes my mom disapproved of, she said if you want it earn the money and buy it because I’m not buying it for you. I feel like that was a good compromise.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:12     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Maybe compromise and give her some stipulations. For instance: no more than 2 inches midriff showing, must have short or long sleeves, no tank crops. Must fully cover bra.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:11     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
Meh, I'd let her wear what she wants. Stomachs aren't private parts. FWIW I have two girls- one middle and one high schooler. They've worn them on and off. They are trying to figure out what they are comfortable in, and I don't think it's helpful to get overly involved in that.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2026 13:08     Subject: 7th grade DD wants crop tops for school
All of a sudden out of nowhere my DD is begging for new shirts that she sees a lot of girls wearing in middle school. Fitted crop tops, off the shoulder tops…I’m not comfortable with it. I’ve talked to her about it and I get tears and pouting. Not sure how to handle. Any advice?