Charlotte York would like a word.

Anonymous wrote:I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.

Can you imagine if a man posted this about women? No one owes you good looks.

Absolutely. I realize this in midlife as DH has let himself go and I have not. His personality made up for him being less attractive than my usual partners, but now instead of being 30% less attractive than me, it’s like 80% and I just can’t do it.

Honey, you have problems. Get on the dating scene, ASAP.

Then let's see if your husband (who is 20% as attractive) finds dates while you are chasing whatever you find at your (advanced) age.

Oof this reads to me like you are dating a player and are about to get burned

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's the same with men. Tall, fit, successful men do not waste time with women with middling looks. There are so many better options. Why slum it with average women?

I know a couple of men who fit that profile and the wives are average looking (cute but not beautiful). They have a lot of other things going for them like one is a former D1 athlete and very together and kind. The another is an extremely smart academic. I'm positive the men make more. One of them is a CEO of a big company.

A wife you really click with is gorgeous.

Anonymous wrote:It's the same with men. Tall, fit, successful men do not waste time with women with middling looks. There are so many better options. Why slum it with average women?

I know a couple of men who fit that profile and the wives are average looking (cute but not beautiful). They have a lot of other things going for them like one is a former D1 athlete and very together and kind. The another is an extremely smart academic. I'm positive the men make more. One of them is a CEO of a big company.

Anonymous wrote:I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.

Just curious, would you date a guy who used steroids (ie. testosterone) to achieve this? I figure if a woman is expected to do botox, lip fillers, surgery a man should have no problem using "assistance" to achieve basic attractiveness.

We all have our things, OP. For me pudge is not a problem, but hairy is. This is probably why I prefer East Asian men, and married one. He happens to also be very muscular, but it's actually not the turn on people might think, because when I hug him, he's too hard - I want a little softness. Also he's short, and I don't mind that at all. I don't want a crick in my neck when I look at my husband.

Just because you dont find other men attractive doesn't mean there partner doesn't

You do realize that others may look at you and question why your bf is with you who they may consider more attractive then you.

Absolutely. I realize this in midlife as DH has let himself go and I have not. His personality made up for him being less attractive than my usual partners, but now instead of being 30% less attractive than me, it’s like 80% and I just can’t do it.

It's the same with men. Tall, fit, successful men do not waste time with women with middling looks. There are so many better options. Why slum it with average women?

You dated, got engaged to, and married someone you didn’t find physically attractive, it didn’t work out, and now you have advice?

k

Nor should you!

Sounds like a you problem not a me problem

I recently started dating after a 20 year marriage, and to my surprise met a guy whom I find extremely physically attractive. It made me realize that I cannot force myself to be with men whom I consider physically less attractive. I now actually question my past choices.

I see it happening all the time that women accept relationships with physically unappealing men, and it's just sad.

Guys, do yourselves and us a favor, and lose weight, get fit, up the grooming and start dressing well.