Sounds like you would be punishing the younger one for the older ones drug use.

I would if you have a concern.

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Anonymous wrote:Randomly testing a kid who shows no signs of anything problematic is a great way to ruin your relationship

This. Imagine having a conversation with a new adult friend who tells you about their messed up relationship with their parents growing up and one example they give is “they used to drug test me randomly even though I gave them no reason to”.

It's super messed up for a normal relationship with no signs of something happening. Like making your daughter show you her bloody pad every month to prove she's not pregnant when she's a not dating, normal 8th grader. Effed.

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This is disturbing to think of anyone doing, dating or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Randomly testing a kid who shows no signs of anything problematic is a great way to ruin your relationship

This. Imagine having a conversation with a new adult friend who tells you about their messed up relationship with their parents growing up and one example they give is “they used to drug test me randomly even though I gave them no reason to”.

It's super messed up for a normal relationship with no signs of something happening. Like making your daughter show you her bloody pad every month to prove she's not pregnant when she's a not dating, normal 8th grader. Effed.

Anonymous wrote:Randomly testing a kid who shows no signs of anything problematic is a great way to ruin your relationship

This. Imagine having a conversation with a new adult friend who tells you about their messed up relationship with their parents growing up and one example they give is “they used to drug test me randomly even though I gave them no reason to”.

Anonymous wrote:Randomly testing a kid who shows no signs of anything problematic is a great way to ruin your relationship

- insane unless there is suspicion which I'm guessing there is despite the way the OP was worded.

Randomly testing a kid who shows no signs of anything problematic is a great way to ruin your relationship

Well, we have our own serious problems, but thank goodness we don't have this one.

You can get precise testing from your pediatrician

The problem is that it’s yes/no and has the possibility of being wrong. It won’t tell you how often, whether the only time was two months ago or if it’s been everyday for 2 months. And worse, you might believe there’s no problem if it gives a negative result when it should be positive, and you could push your teen to do it depending on your reaction to a false positive.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I hate that idea. I can understand where you’re coming from because of your experience with your other child, but I would rather have frequent, open communication. I guess if I really felt like drug use was likely, I would talk to my kid, tell him that you regret not learning earlier about other DS’s drug use, and get his consent.

I had open communication with my other kid and he hid the drugs well. I had no idea.

Did this. It worked. Stopped the problem.

Wow, I hate that idea. I can understand where you’re coming from because of your experience with your other child, but I would rather have frequent, open communication. I guess if I really felt like drug use was likely, I would talk to my kid, tell him that you regret not learning earlier about other DS’s drug use, and get his consent.

Yes, we random test weed and nicotine. They have urine tests in any drug store and online, Amazon etc...

Drug use is rampant at schools. I’m thinking about giving my child drug tests even though I don’t suspect anything to orevent him from trying in high school since we are currently dealing with his brothers drug use. If I had tested him I’d have found out sooner.