Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 21:55     Subject: Gender disappointment
Lol my cousin had a whole pink baby shower and on the very last appointment the baby flipped directions and surprise 😳 he’s a healthy baby boy. She was devastated
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 19:37     Subject: Gender disappointment
My cousin married a man of a different culture where it was imperative to have a boy. She had 6 girls first.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 15:16     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment
It’s weird that this is a thing. I know 3 UMC family’s with 4 kids. All 3 have 3 eldest girls. One has four girls and is considering a fifth. We know lots of 3 kid families with all boys or a combination of boys and girls.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 08:16     Subject: Gender disappointment
That sounds like depression. Maybe she should see a therapist? If she's crying now, she's going to be seriously depressed once the baby is born and that's not good.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 08:15     Subject: Gender disappointment
Anonymous wrote:How do you support a family member going through tough emotions dealing with gender dissapoinment? SIL wanted boys, but just found out that she’s having her third daughter. That’s all she wants to talk to me about, and it’s tiresome, she cries and cries. But I still want to support her and be someone that she feels free to share her feelings with.
Is her DH’s family keen on boys?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 08:14     Subject: Gender disappointment
Do you have only girls too?
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2026 08:05     Subject: Gender disappointment
Anonymous wrote:Don't take her call right away. If she sends you a text complaining about it, just send back a thumbs up or heart. Hopefully she'll get into acceptance mode soon. It is also okay to change the subject.


Perfect advise.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 22:57     Subject: Re:Gender disappointment
How long ago?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:47     Subject: Gender disappointment
Anonymous wrote:Don't take her call right away. If she sends you a text complaining about it, just send back a thumbs up or heart. Hopefully she'll get into acceptance mode soon. It is also okay to change the subject.


This is good advice but definitely do a heart emoji versus a thumbs up if she's really upset. Seems dumb but it will feel more sympathetic.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:45     Subject: Gender disappointment
I feel so sad for that poor baby.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:43     Subject: Gender disappointment
Wow that’s sad for the baby.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:41     Subject: Gender disappointment
I would listen one time and then try to change the subject or distance myself as quickly as possible after that. I would not want to validate that is really something to be very upset about.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:32     Subject: Gender disappointment
Anonymous wrote:Don't take her call right away. If she sends you a text complaining about it, just send back a thumbs up or heart. Hopefully she'll get into acceptance mode soon. It is also okay to change the subject.


+1
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:17     Subject: Gender disappointment
Don't take her call right away. If she sends you a text complaining about it, just send back a thumbs up or heart. Hopefully she'll get into acceptance mode soon. It is also okay to change the subject.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2026 21:12     Subject: Gender disappointment
How do you support a family member going through tough emotions dealing with gender dissapoinment? SIL wanted boys, but just found out that she’s having her third daughter. That’s all she wants to talk to me about, and it’s tiresome, she cries and cries. But I still want to support her and be someone that she feels free to share her feelings with.