Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 09:01     Subject: Relationship burnout
Gross.
He’s giving you the best he’s got

Get out of this situationship.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 07:53     Subject: Relationship burnout
Anonymous wrote:3 years into a relationship. We live together, moved in after 18 months. I am already feeling burnt out. He does a lot around the house but the mental load is the hard part. I have to initiate everything - I taught him how to get a credit card, save for retirement, increase his income, get a therapy and get him diagnosed for adhd, etc. I am realizing that I will be leading and he will be dragging. We are in our 40s, he’s actually older than me. Will it ever improve?


Yuck.

Glad you lived together first and could see how dependent and checked out he gets.

No it won’t ever improve. He’s a failure to launch.

Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 07:29     Subject: Relationship burnout
He has ADHD. You did a good job there and now it's time to get out.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 07:19     Subject: Relationship burnout
This guy should not have made it past date #3. Good grief.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 07:11     Subject: Relationship burnout
Mens IQ varies a lot more than women. This one obviously doesn't enjoy thinking and cognition goes down not up as you age.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 07:08     Subject: Relationship burnout
Are you the one who posted about marriage? Definitely don't marry this guy. By his 40s he should know how to do this stuff.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 06:41     Subject: Relationship burnout
Nope.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 06:36     Subject: Relationship burnout
Anonymous wrote:Where did you even find a guy in his 40s without a credit card or 401K?


This. Please don’t’ tell me you want to have children with him, too. You’ve already got one with him.

Does he have ANY money saved for retirement? You’re going to be carrying him until one of you dies.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 06:34     Subject: Relationship burnout
No. Did you want a child?
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 06:32     Subject: Relationship burnout
Where did you even find a guy in his 40s without a credit card or 401K?
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 06:05     Subject: Relationship burnout
Ew. All that is very unattractive and unacceptable. Dump . Him.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 06:05     Subject: Relationship burnout
No, this is his best behavior.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2026 05:03     Subject: Relationship burnout
He is in his 40’s? No, he is not changing.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2026 23:06     Subject: Relationship burnout
No. You are too old for a man baby.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2026 23:04     Subject: Relationship burnout
3 years into a relationship. We live together, moved in after 18 months. I am already feeling burnt out. He does a lot around the house but the mental load is the hard part. I have to initiate everything - I taught him how to get a credit card, save for retirement, increase his income, get a therapy and get him diagnosed for adhd, etc. I am realizing that I will be leading and he will be dragging. We are in our 40s, he’s actually older than me. Will it ever improve?