Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"You invaded my privacy by looking on my phone and inserted yourself in conversations you were not meant to be a part of!"

Well, you did.

I mean, the options are pretty limited, yea? I asked him if he was cheating and he said no.

If I had divorced him without solid proof, I would have been criticized for putting my kids thru a divorce "for no reason".

I didn't even ask mine if he was cheating. I presented it as a fact. He denied. I rolled my eyes. He tried to double down but when I named the person I knew he was banging, and honestly it was all just a hunch, he shifted gears and immediately said he wanted a divorce. I wish her the best! He's her problem now.

Oh shit!

My words were to show him the text that accidentally went to every family phone and I said “ get out of jail free card”

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it should be "I'm sorry", necessarily. Apologies are over-rated and only worth it if they're sincere and the premise to a long-term improvement in behavior. An honest explanation would be more interesting to me, so that I can examine where everybody went wrong, and how it all happened (and I do include the non-cheating spouse in the everybody).

Lame

They can’t explain it. If they could they would have addressed it earlier.

They don’t really know why they do it, they think they know.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"You invaded my privacy by looking on my phone and inserted yourself in conversations you were not meant to be a part of!"

Well, you did.

I mean, the options are pretty limited, yea? I asked him if he was cheating and he said no.

If I had divorced him without solid proof, I would have been criticized for putting my kids thru a divorce "for no reason".

How dare you say that!

How dare you do that to the kids!

Anonymous wrote:Do they ever take responsibility? Mine didn't. My best friend's husband said he was "framed" when she presented him with photos, texts, and letters she got from the AP. Framed? Really? Given that most cheaters deny, it's better to just gather the evidence that you need to leave, go see a lawyer, and confront them only after your case is rock solid and you have emotionally detached from the marriage and are done. Then their absurd reactions are just something you can laugh about with your friends over a glass of wine when they finally watch the kids because they insist on parenting time, even though they never wanted any when you were married.

That borders on hilarious.

Anonymous wrote:"You invaded my privacy by looking on my phone and inserted yourself in conversations you were not meant to be a part of!"

Well, you did.

"You're insane. I would never."

She confessed because he was now bothering her and she wanted him to stop and leave her alone! She was pretty sure he would tell. Her focus was still on herself.

Anonymous wrote:"You invaded my privacy by looking on my phone and inserted yourself in conversations you were not meant to be a part of!"

Oh, forgot to add: "you're only hurt because you read something not meant for you".

Anonymous wrote:"You invaded my privacy by looking on my phone and inserted yourself in conversations you were not meant to be a part of!"

That's a good one, and they all do it!

Do they ever take responsibility? Mine didn't. My best friend's husband said he was "framed" when she presented him with photos, texts, and letters she got from the AP. Framed? Really? Given that most cheaters deny, it's better to just gather the evidence that you need to leave, go see a lawyer, and confront them only after your case is rock solid and you have emotionally detached from the marriage and are done. Then their absurd reactions are just something you can laugh about with your friends over a glass of wine when they finally watch the kids because they insist on parenting time, even though they never wanted any when you were married.

I don't think it should be "I'm sorry", necessarily. Apologies are over-rated and only worth it if they're sincere and the premise to a long-term improvement in behavior. An honest explanation would be more interesting to me, so that I can examine where everybody went wrong, and how it all happened (and I do include the non-cheating spouse in the everybody).

"You invaded my privacy by looking on my phone and inserted yourself in conversations you were not meant to be a part of!"

Lie, excuse or proclamation of love to try to save themselves?
Informal polling tells me it's never "I'm sorry."