I lost 7 lbs since Valentine's Day.

But…i don’t care. You aren’t that interesting and the idea i should care how much you weigh is super narcissistic.

Anonymous wrote:I try to say something like, “It’s great to see you, I hope you’ve been well. Tell me what you’ve been up to!”

This opens the door for the person to either share their weight loss or defer and keep it to themselves. Either way, I will enthusiastically engage them on their choice of conversation.

As someone who does not want to talk about my weight, I like that one.

I try to say something like, “It’s great to see you, I hope you’ve been well. Tell me what you’ve been up to!”

This opens the door for the person to either share their weight loss or defer and keep it to themselves. Either way, I will enthusiastically engage them on their choice of conversation.

Anonymous wrote:Ideally they would say you looked fabulous and you said thanks, I'm trying my best, and then they could start the weight talk with you having blessed it.

Honestly people are rude and nasty. If you lost 10lbs, people are more likely to stare at you and ask if you are okay. Implying something is wrong with you for not wanting to be chubby.

Yes, I entirely agree. But then I'm French. If a man or woman wants to express their admiration, hey, I'll take it. I also want to compliment others if they look especially good (cute outfit, fresh haircut, or just bright and energetic), but in this country, I always hesitate.

Same! I love compliments and am not offended. I lost 15lbs and no one commented which still kind of bums me out. Even my own mom who I think refuses to comment just to be mean. I’m not a vain person either who fishes for compliments usually.

Anonymous wrote:Ideally they would say you looked fabulous and you said thanks, I'm trying my best, and then they could start the weight talk with you having blessed it.

That works for me.

Ideally they would say you looked fabulous and you said thanks, I'm trying my best, and then they could start the weight talk with you having blessed it.

It doesn't offend me and in fact, I am disappointed so few people say anything. I miss the good old days when it was acceptable and so many people would comment when I lost weight. Now sure some people then take digs and I don't like that, but if you want to notice it out loud, compliment and ask me how, it's fine with me!!