Anonymous
03/09/2026 20:15
Subject: Post tryout
The notion that speed of offer translates to playing time is pretty absurd.
Anonymous
03/09/2026 08:25
Subject: Post tryout
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is the honest truth. If your son does not get an offer before general tryouts, chances are he’ll ride the bench for the whole season. Your son is in what coaches call the “bubble” or wait list. The coach is waiting for a starter to reject his offer for him to take your son off the waitlist. But even if your son makes it, he will be benched 100%. It is better to move on. What is happening to you has two outcomes:
1. Your son does not get an offer and ends up without a team.
2. Your son gets an offer ( if a starter rejects the offer) but will not get any play time.
Being in this game for so long, if a coach does not offer us a position before tryouts and if they don’t specifically give us a plan and role for the kid in the roster after they make the offer, we don’t accept the offer.
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
How do you manage moving on to other clubs? Wouldn't they have their own registration deadlines and could have possibly held their tryouts already? Or do you try to register for several ahead of time?
We asked to attend practices ahead of tryouts. I don’t recall getting an offer before tryouts though. It still came after the first official tryout I think.
Anonymous
03/09/2026 08:08
Subject: Post tryout
Anonymous wrote:This is the honest truth. If your son does not get an offer before general tryouts, chances are he’ll ride the bench for the whole season. Your son is in what coaches call the “bubble” or wait list. The coach is waiting for a starter to reject his offer for him to take your son off the waitlist. But even if your son makes it, he will be benched 100%. It is better to move on. What is happening to you has two outcomes:
1. Your son does not get an offer and ends up without a team.
2. Your son gets an offer ( if a starter rejects the offer) but will not get any play time.
Being in this game for so long, if a coach does not offer us a position before tryouts and if they don’t specifically give us a plan and role for the kid in the roster after they make the offer, we don’t accept the offer.
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
How do you manage moving on to other clubs? Wouldn't they have their own registration deadlines and could have possibly held their tryouts already? Or do you try to register for several ahead of time?
Anonymous
03/09/2026 07:40
Subject: Post tryout
Even with low level clubs, this is correct. We
have always had an email the next day after tryouts for teams my kid made *if it was the first team*.
have always had an email the next day after tryouts for teams my kid made *if it was the first team*.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 21:09
Subject: Post tryout
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
so if you guys have experience with a specific club what's the wait time after tryout ?
All clubs are pretty much the same. If they want the player, the coach will make the verbal offer same evening. Then they inform the club admin and you get your offer the same evening or next day depending on the admin.
If you don’t get an offer the same day or if you are asked to keep coming, chances become low and even if you get an offer, it is mainly for the bench.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 15:56
Subject: Post tryout
24 hours. If they want you.
Anonymous
03/08/2026 15:02
Subject: Post tryout
Anonymous wrote:
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
so if you guys have experience with a specific club what's the wait time after tryout ?
Anonymous
03/07/2026 11:41
Subject: Post tryout
Anonymous wrote:This is the honest truth. If your son does not get an offer before general tryouts, chances are he’ll ride the bench for the whole season. Your son is in what coaches call the “bubble” or wait list. The coach is waiting for a starter to reject his offer for him to take your son off the waitlist. But even if your son makes it, he will be benched 100%. It is better to move on. What is happening to you has two outcomes:
1. Your son does not get an offer and ends up without a team.
2. Your son gets an offer ( if a starter rejects the offer) but will not get any play time.
Being in this game for so long, if a coach does not offer us a position before tryouts and if they don’t specifically give us a plan and role for the kid in the roster after they make the offer, we don’t accept the offer.
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
This is an excellent system and easy way to evaluate the process. Thanks for sharing!
Anonymous
03/07/2026 10:41
Subject: Post tryout
Has the club concluded all their ID sessions? A lot of them have been significantly delayed by the ICE storm. We are with a club who still has 1 more to go and we have 1/4 of the kids with no offer yet. They are going to decide final slots based on the last ID session.
Anonymous
03/07/2026 07:10
Subject: Post tryout
There literally shouldn't be anything such as a youth team U14 and under especially where a kid is riding the bench
Anonymous
03/07/2026 06:30
Subject: Re:Post tryout
Brutal truth has already been stated on here. What reasonable explanation would a coach have to wait to send an offer if they liked your kid above others? And they will have to like your kid above others to get an offer.
Bottom line...you aren't the first choice, and you are waiting on other kids (who are preferred) to make choices.
Bottom line...you aren't the first choice, and you are waiting on other kids (who are preferred) to make choices.
Anonymous
03/07/2026 05:22
Subject: Post tryout
This is the honest truth. If your son does not get an offer before general tryouts, chances are he’ll ride the bench for the whole season. Your son is in what coaches call the “bubble” or wait list. The coach is waiting for a starter to reject his offer for him to take your son off the waitlist. But even if your son makes it, he will be benched 100%. It is better to move on. What is happening to you has two outcomes:
1. Your son does not get an offer and ends up without a team.
2. Your son gets an offer ( if a starter rejects the offer) but will not get any play time.
Being in this game for so long, if a coach does not offer us a position before tryouts and if they don’t specifically give us a plan and role for the kid in the roster after they make the offer, we don’t accept the offer.
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
1. Your son does not get an offer and ends up without a team.
2. Your son gets an offer ( if a starter rejects the offer) but will not get any play time.
Being in this game for so long, if a coach does not offer us a position before tryouts and if they don’t specifically give us a plan and role for the kid in the roster after they make the offer, we don’t accept the offer.
If we go to any general tryouts and don’t get the offer the same evening or next day at the latest, we email the coach to thank them and let them know to no longer consider our player and move the the next club.
Anonymous
03/07/2026 01:34
Subject: Post tryout
I really hate to say this isn’t true. But 4 days is the outside of when you will be getting a meaningful offer. Try out everywhere, the clubs are going to do what is best for them, do what is best for your DC. Sorry.
Anonymous
03/07/2026 00:55
Subject: Post tryout
If you are over a week out at best you'll get a bench position offer and your son will sit a lot and at worst you'll get no spot.
Coaches are salesmen. They are there to bring in as many players as possible while only actually looking to add one or two players. Everyone else is strung along until the get a rejection email or a lower team offer.
Coaches are salesmen. They are there to bring in as many players as possible while only actually looking to add one or two players. Everyone else is strung along until the get a rejection email or a lower team offer.
Anonymous
03/06/2026 23:55
Subject: Post tryout
Anyone go through something similar? My son tried out for a club 2 times at their open tryout. Seems like almost the entire time he was placed in their higher level group. We contacted that coach at the tryout who’s the ECNL coach and asked him for status a week later. He said he was still working on it and then subsequently we went to 2 practices of his that he told us about. We are again waiting after the practices with no news. I’m used to not waiting for more than 2-3 days for a call from one of the team on the club. This one has been over a week after tryout. Anyone go through something similar and what did you do?