Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 08:19     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


Asking someone if they've lost weight or noticing that someone has lost weight is NOT a compliment or something to be flattered by. It's just an observation. And looking someone up and down in an obvious manner is just rude.

MIL could have just said "You look great" and left it at that.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 06:40     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


To be it's like saying...I thought of you as fat! Even if you mean it as a compliment.


Maybe she looks like Kelly Osbourne and MIL is concerned. People are going way too far with the weight loss.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 06:36     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
A compliment? What if it was due to illness. You would have gone through the roof.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 05:32     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Commenting on people's bodies is rude. You shouldn't comment on gain, and you shouldn't comment on loss.

You don't know what's going on with others - just don't comment on their bodies at all.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 04:49     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 01:41     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


No you do not comment on the size of people's bodies


+1

Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 01:39     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


No you do not comment on the size of people's bodies

+1
Definitely rude
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 00:57     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


No you do not comment on the size of people's bodies
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 00:36     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.


To be it's like saying...I thought of you as fat! Even if you mean it as a compliment.
Anonymous
Post 03/07/2026 00:24     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2026 23:30     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
I like. 'Im not really a scale person' and move on
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2026 23:20     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have lost 40lbs over the past year. I see my in laws every few months. Today, my mother in law, who I last saw at Christmas (and mind you, I have only lost 4lbs since Christmas) looked me up and down and said "Have you lost a TON of weight?". I said "yes" and she promptly asked me how. No compliment in there or anything. Don't do that to people, folks. It's incredibly rude. Just don't talk about weight. Ever.


Is she also trying to lose weight? Is anyone else in the family fat?

It doesn't matter. It's always rude to ask someone about their weight.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2026 23:19     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
Anonymous wrote:I have lost 40lbs over the past year. I see my in laws every few months. Today, my mother in law, who I last saw at Christmas (and mind you, I have only lost 4lbs since Christmas) looked me up and down and said "Have you lost a TON of weight?". I said "yes" and she promptly asked me how. No compliment in there or anything. Don't do that to people, folks. It's incredibly rude. Just don't talk about weight. Ever.


Is she also trying to lose weight? Is anyone else in the family fat?
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2026 22:47     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
You should have just said “no,” or “I’m not sure.” It drives people crazy. Rude people who are rude enough to comment on weight loss, that is.
Anonymous
Post 03/06/2026 21:44     Subject: Don't ask people about their weight loss.
I have lost 40lbs over the past year. I see my in laws every few months. Today, my mother in law, who I last saw at Christmas (and mind you, I have only lost 4lbs since Christmas) looked me up and down and said "Have you lost a TON of weight?". I said "yes" and she promptly asked me how. No compliment in there or anything. Don't do that to people, folks. It's incredibly rude. Just don't talk about weight. Ever.