Men don't "need" to get married to the extent they did in the past. Notwithstanding women's complaints about men not doing housework, modern appliances make it feasible for a single man to live on his own and take care of his home by himself. Food prep services and takeout can fill in for those without culinary skills. Most men don't need to get married to have sex. Porn can help fill in the gaps for some.

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Anonymous wrote:Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?

Women outnumber men in those cities.
The number of single women must be higher. What’s going on?

I think men outnumber women in SF.

Anonymous wrote:Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?

Women outnumber men in those cities.
The number of single women must be higher. What’s going on?

Anonymous wrote:Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?

A lot of people in these cities are transplants from other cities, states, countries or continents, which makes dating more complex than it is for vanilla white Christian men.

Anonymous wrote:Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?

Wouldn't that mean similar percentage for women? Who are they marrying?

Anonymous wrote:Men in tech and finance tend to be hyper-fixated on their careers. Plus, men in tech in SF often have low emotional intelligence - so not the bestest people skills. As for finance, a very high percentage of men working on Wall Street are genuine sociopaths. So it's not a surprise many men in NY and SF are single.

Who do you think about single women?

Anonymous wrote:Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?

Most women aren't worth a try. And men aren't better either. Honestly better be single and lonely than I'm relationship and miserable.

Men in tech and finance tend to be hyper-fixated on their careers. Plus, men in tech in SF often have low emotional intelligence - so not the bestest people skills. As for finance, a very high percentage of men working on Wall Street are genuine sociopaths. So it's not a surprise many men in NY and SF are single.

Anonymous wrote:Men staying in the city past a certain age frequently means manchild Peter Pan lifestyle. The responsible ones leave to start families. The ones in SF stay to be in stinky polycules.

I think the families and married men are in the suburbs. SF itself only has 800,000 residents.

Men staying in the city past a certain age frequently means manchild Peter Pan lifestyle. The responsible ones leave to start families. The ones in SF stay to be in stinky polycules.

City is expensive so taking someone out in a date is. These men aren’t looking for traditional relationships either. Hook ups and situation ships don’t count.

Anonymous wrote:Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?

They want to work long hours without feeling like they are doing it at the expense of partners and children. When they are ready to either participate fully or throw money at household issues, they will find someone. Not a bad idea

Anonymous wrote:What's going on, evidently is that half the men in San Francisco and a third of the men in NYC are single. You said it yourself.

I’m dating in SF at the moment, but it seems like most quality men I’ve met are married. So maybe the other half aren’t marriage quality or Peter Pan types.

What's going on, evidently is that half the men in San Francisco and a third of the men in NYC are single. You said it yourself.

Even accounting for the gay population, that’s a huge number

1/2 of 40 year old men in sf aren’t gay and 1/3 of 40 year old men in nyc aren’t gay

That’s an insane stat.

What’s going on?