I have a soul sucking commute home that drains me from ruminating on anything. It’s usually an hour and 15 minutes. The best part: I live 11 miles from my office.

Anonymous wrote:I have a high-intensity job, where there's always a lot on the the line. When things go bad, I find myself in a deep funk at night. When things go great - I can't stop thinking about how well it went.

Am I crazy?

Unless you work in a hedge fund where daily movements truly potentially put a lot on the line every day...then, no. If you do, then I assume you picked the job for the very same reasons you can't stop thinking about it. You basically get a very explicit, empirical job scorecard every day.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I find myself replaying a scenario out loud, word for word. It's usually from a good moment or scenario, though. The really bad/toxic stuff? That seeps out in everything I do, rather than replaying it mentally.

I do this. Sometimes I replay things from high school or even grammar school. Usually good things. I'm more likely to ruminate about negative personal interactions but positive school or work conversations.

I don't do it out loud though, just in my head.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I find myself replaying a scenario out loud, word for word. It's usually from a good moment or scenario, though. The really bad/toxic stuff? That seeps out in everything I do, rather than replaying it mentally.

I do this. Sometimes I replay things from high school or even grammar school. Usually good things. I'm more likely to ruminate about negative personal interactions but positive school or work conversations.

I ruminate about the cringe moments. Somehow I can never get a repeat high from the positive moments. Stupid brain.

Sometimes I find myself replaying a scenario out loud, word for word. It's usually from a good moment or scenario, though. The really bad/toxic stuff? That seeps out in everything I do, rather than replaying it mentally.

I did in stressful/toxic jobs where I never knew where I stood. I’m in a secure and respectful environment now and once the day is done I don’t think about it.

When I had kids I realized I had a problem carrying work thoughts over into the precious little time I had with them off the clock, and prioritized ways of turning it off. Some things that work for me are just doing a hard reset immediately after work, like going for a run or just doing something physical/outside before moving on with my day, and then staying away from screens. By the end of it I am too tired to care even if I still did.

I used to! I have been in the same role for 7 years now and am much better about letting stuff go. It has become mostly automatic but if I get stuck I try to give it the one, two, and five year tests. Will this matter in that amount of time? Almost always no!

I have a high-intensity job, where there's always a lot on the the line. When things go bad, I find myself in a deep funk at night. When things go great - I can't stop thinking about how well it went.

Am I crazy?