We met before the first date at a HS sporting event. My DD told us that she knew we’d want to meet him before they started dating and they intended to date. It was brief and not weird. She met his family shortly thereafter.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- they both can drive so he doesn’t pick her up at the house. She meets him
out at places. He hasn’t been to our house and she hasn’t been to his house. They’ve met up a handful of times so far, not counting school.

Maybe too late. But if he drives, he should be coming to pick her up for dates and dropping her back off, not meeting her at someplace. That’s poor treatment and manners. He may not know better, but at least you can teach your daughter how she should be treated.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- they both can drive so he doesn’t pick her up at the house. She meets him
out at places. He hasn’t been to our house and she hasn’t been to his house. They’ve met up a handful of times so far, not counting school.

I don’t like this. He needs to come to the house for accountability.

In 2026 does she also need to go to his house?

My parents always demanded it before the first date. It was humiliating. They invited the guy over for dinner. I vow not to do that to my kids. It’s way too quick.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- they both can drive so he doesn’t pick her up at the house. She meets him
out at places. He hasn’t been to our house and she hasn’t been to his house. They’ve met up a handful of times so far, not counting school.

I don’t like this. He needs to come to the house for accountability.

Op here- they both can drive so he doesn’t pick her up at the house. She meets him
out at places. He hasn’t been to our house and she hasn’t been to his house. They’ve met up a handful of times so far, not counting school.

Anonymous wrote:Just bump into him at Trader Joes.

Hilarious.

I clicked this post and from the title of the post, I was going to say, "she decides, your daughter decides. You have no role here."

But, much different because she is in high school. I would say, you meet him almost immediately. I highly suggest you invite him to family dinner. What this does is it eliminates the young men who really have no significant and genuine (for the right reasons) interest in your daughter. If something's at all uncomfortable, they won't do it.

Anonymous wrote:Sooner rather than later. Have him come over after school with her. Give them a snack, chat with them both for five minutes, then leave the kitchen. Send him home before dinner.

This except don’t make them a “snack.” Introduce yourself, chat for a few minutes and duck out.

Anonymous wrote:Is this Marlene again?

😩

Just bump into him at Trader Joes.

Is this Marlene again?

Sooner rather than later. Have him come over after school with her. Give them a snack, chat with them both for five minutes, then leave the kitchen. Send him home before dinner.

Does he come pick her up? Then at the door the first time he comes. Are they too young to drive? Then the first time they hang out at your house. Not sure I understand. A casual meeting, like any new person in her life that is close enough for them to go somewhere together, is the best way. Don’t wait for some formal meet the parents dinner.

When do you meet your DD's boyfriend? They're in HS. And how, to keep it not too big a deal?