What about a pants/shirt combo with some bling? Like velour, sequins, lace, etc.

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/aqua-girls-sequinned-pants-big-kid-exclusive

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=852835012&vid=1&searchText=velour#pdp-page-content

I’m not sure what season the wedding is, so I’m not sure what type of top you might want.

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-mara-sweater-big-kid?ID=5672622&CategoryID=1272420#PAGEINDEX/2

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/habitual-kid-girls-7-16-faux-mohair-sweater-top?ID=24012331&isDlp=true

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=884851012&vid=1&tid=onpl000106&kwid=1&ap=7&ds_agid=17394600446-&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=17382863991&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8sVVnGmxj7M6NJYR08UaSLIz&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIusKT78T3kgMVRVBHAR1wPBZJEAQYAyABEgLhwPD_BwE

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=856477012&vid=1&tid=gppl000061&kwid=1&ap=7&ds_agid=17446994394-&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=17458099871&gbraid=0AAAAAD_AT8unRTs0FtNr8PjlqxuNlyfUb&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqouyyb73kgMVAU1HAR235ji8EAQYJSABEgK3qPD_BwE#pdp-page-content

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=843490012&vid=1&pcid=1153699&cid=1153699&nav=hamnav%3AGirls%3ACategories%3AShirts+%26+Tops#pdp-page-content

If nothing else, you can get a plain, solid-colored knit shirt and she can wear a necklace or pin with it.

https://www.childrensplace.com/us/p/Girls-Short-Sleeve-Tulip-Top-3059240-32I8

Anonymous wrote:What about something like this: https://us.boden.com/products/girls-puff-sleeve-woven-top-chambray-broderie-g5904blu

WTF, no!

Leggings and comfy shoes with a jersey dress, or maybe palazzo pants?

My DD loves jumpsuits and rompers. Something like this:
https://www.janieandjack.com/item/girls-the-velvet-bow-jumpsuit-105808002.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PLA-Kids-Standard-Shopping&utm_term=&utm_content=pla&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=1944780461&gbraid=0AAAAABa-3nihzULMlVctX7JO0ka_DRWGz&gclid=CjwKCAiA-__MBhAKEiwASBmsBAjBnXXLpzZJ0HEl7nwY4sa4o5TkV8y9WjTh7puhLGslI-ZfEE2hMhoCjWAQAvD_BwE

or this:

https://factory.jcrew.com/p/girls/categories/clothing/dresses-and-skirts/jumpsuits/girls-velvet-flutter-sleeve-jumpsuit/CP566?color_name=old-forest&N=6&sale=true&noPopUp=true&pdp=hybrid&srcCode=Paid_Search|Shopping_Pmax|Google|PMG^G^99107902154_21151353111___c_pla_online__9193779&utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=shopping_ads&utm_campaign=FACT_Shopping_PLA_US_All_Clearance_PMax_X_Google_X&utm_term=&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21151354533&gbraid=0AAAAADozhi6RclZ6sJzu-9oZLMcNaBtxs&gclid=CjwKCAiA-__MBhAKEiwASBmsBGyqQAaZFo-vqC0-1HvvGbtUgS7vUJiery1LpPTPYZhL4lHGBnIahBoC3BsQAvD_BwE

Maybe this:

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/kids-burnout-velvet-romper-big-kid/8548251?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FDresses%20%26%20Rompers%2FJumpsuits%20%26%20Rompers&color=930

Is her issue not wanting to look girly girl or that she doesn't physically feel comfortable in dresses? Dark thick leggings under the dress may feel enough like pants with a sparkly longer top/ minidress could work if the latter.

Black leggings and a fancier sweater or tunic sort of top.

Fancy things up with a cheap crossbody purse or sparkly shoes.

Black jumpsuit, or slacks with a sweater.

Anonymous wrote:What about something like this: https://us.boden.com/products/girls-puff-sleeve-woven-top-chambray-broderie-g5904blu

I think this is the right direction. I would look for a coord set in a dark or jewel tone color.

A black jumpsuit? Black pants and a nice sweater? A long black skirt and nice top?

Anonymous wrote:What about something like this: https://us.boden.com/products/girls-puff-sleeve-woven-top-chambray-broderie-g5904blu

I’m the above PP. there’s no way my DD would wear something like that. Way too girly looking.

I have a girl the same way. She’s 13 now and still like it. In the elem years she wore a button down shirt and a tie happily, along with her sparky earrings lol.
Maybe try black pants with a shirt/blouse that is either feminine or masc in its cut. Show her options.
I think it’s fine to say this is a dress up occasion so dressing up is not an option. She csn gave choice in what she-wears though but needs to give input.

What about something like this: https://us.boden.com/products/girls-puff-sleeve-woven-top-chambray-broderie-g5904blu

I was a tom boy and on formal occassions had to suck it up and wear a dress or a skirt. That is a part of life.

She can look at nicer dressy pants and tops with you or find a flowy skirt or dress that is comfortable and not constraining. Get her a pair of shorts like the cheer kids wear under their skirt so she can wear that underneath.

DD7 is not a girly-girl, prefers comfy clothes and hates dresses, I haven't bought her a dress or skirt in probably 3 years now. For recent events that have required nicer clothes, khakis plus a polo or sweater have typically been sufficient (same for older DS). However we will be attending a family wedding that will be decidedly more formal- black tie optional. DS will wear a button down, slacks and a tie. I've given DD the option of wearing the same or a dress and she's balking at both. I don't think she wants to 100% look like a boy, whcih I understand, but also refuses any dresses we've seen. Help me think aoutside the box, I can't be the only one who has been in this situation! TIA.