Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 11:04     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the question is ….


Question is how is travel better than rec? If the kids don’t show up for practice and games? Yes they can play better than rec kids but how can you have a team feeling when half the kids don’t show up and practice together?


Our kids’ travel/competitive teams have all had very committed players and these are mid-level competitive teams. There are many out there. You got a dud. Try another team.


What teams would you suggest in Bethesda/rockville area?
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 10:58     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the question is ….


Question is how is travel better than rec? If the kids don’t show up for practice and games? Yes they can play better than rec kids but how can you have a team feeling when half the kids don’t show up and practice together?


Our kids’ travel/competitive teams have all had very committed players and these are mid-level competitive teams. There are many out there. You got a dud. Try another team.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 08:33     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know rec teams are a disaster because kids who can play go on travel/competitive teams. Now we are experiencing problems with those as well. The select team kids skip practice regularly and most of the time we are struggling to have 5 kids to play a game. This is basketball..


There's a secret elite league above competitive travel teams.


How do u get to the secret elite league?
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 08:23     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I remember on my son's first AAU team in 5th or 6th grade, one kid never came to practice because of travel soccer. Come tournament days, he didn't get to start ever and his minutes were cut. His mom complained to the coach nonstop about how unfair it was, but he didn't know any of the plays. That kid never made the team again.

It was unfair to his mom because she paid the fee


No If the kid doesn't show up and doesn't know the plays, he should sit. Not fair to the other kids who go to everything and then the kid who never comes to practice gets to play.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 07:38     Subject: Re:Competitive teams and still no show?

This may be too deep, but sometimes I think it’s reflective of our society. Parents tend to see anything as there for their convenience, if it works out, rather than buying in to the idea of true commitment to a team. Very “me” focused approach to life.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 07:36     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I remember on my son's first AAU team in 5th or 6th grade, one kid never came to practice because of travel soccer. Come tournament days, he didn't get to start ever and his minutes were cut. His mom complained to the coach nonstop about how unfair it was, but he didn't know any of the plays. That kid never made the team again.

It was unfair to his mom because she paid the fee


Yes. A lot of "not basketball people" don't understand that if a kid doesn't go to practice, he won't know the plays, the offenses, the defenses, etc. A lot of sports don't have "plays" and a kid can miss every practice and still show up for the games and play fine. She viewed it as she was paying the full fee planning on never going to practices but expected him to play in the games like it was a soccer game.
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 07:34     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know rec teams are a disaster because kids who can play go on travel/competitive teams. Now we are experiencing problems with those as well. The select team kids skip practice regularly and most of the time we are struggling to have 5 kids to play a game. This is basketball..


There's a secret elite league above competitive travel teams.


It's not even that - because rec is dead, the same people who would be doing rec are in travel. Guess what? Same level of commitment. OP didn't state the level they're at for basketball, but the sport I'm most familiar with is soccer and the lower level teams are absolutely no different than rec. You know how I know? They're always asking kids from the higher teams to "help out" due to low #s.


Yes a select team. Not the highest level team but still you expect kids to be committed? If they are sick or injured I get that but regularly missing practice I don’t get. What are they doing instead? Another league?
Anonymous
Post 02/17/2026 07:33     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the question is ….


Question is how is travel better than rec? If the kids don’t show up for practice and games? Yes they can play better than rec kids but how can you have a team feeling when half the kids don’t show up and practice together?
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 19:04     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:I remember on my son's first AAU team in 5th or 6th grade, one kid never came to practice because of travel soccer. Come tournament days, he didn't get to start ever and his minutes were cut. His mom complained to the coach nonstop about how unfair it was, but he didn't know any of the plays. That kid never made the team again.

It was unfair to his mom because she paid the fee
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 18:36     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

I remember on my son's first AAU team in 5th or 6th grade, one kid never came to practice because of travel soccer. Come tournament days, he didn't get to start ever and his minutes were cut. His mom complained to the coach nonstop about how unfair it was, but he didn't know any of the plays. That kid never made the team again.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 18:25     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know rec teams are a disaster because kids who can play go on travel/competitive teams. Now we are experiencing problems with those as well. The select team kids skip practice regularly and most of the time we are struggling to have 5 kids to play a game. This is basketball..


There's a secret elite league above competitive travel teams.


It's not even that - because rec is dead, the same people who would be doing rec are in travel. Guess what? Same level of commitment. OP didn't state the level they're at for basketball, but the sport I'm most familiar with is soccer and the lower level teams are absolutely no different than rec. You know how I know? They're always asking kids from the higher teams to "help out" due to low #s.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 18:19     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

Anonymous wrote:I know rec teams are a disaster because kids who can play go on travel/competitive teams. Now we are experiencing problems with those as well. The select team kids skip practice regularly and most of the time we are struggling to have 5 kids to play a game. This is basketball..


There's a secret elite league above competitive travel teams.
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 13:14     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

My kid plays for her MS and rec and neither are a disaster. I guess it depends on the kids/coach/league
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 13:12     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

I’m not sure what the question is ….
Anonymous
Post 02/16/2026 13:10     Subject: Competitive teams and still no show?

I know rec teams are a disaster because kids who can play go on travel/competitive teams. Now we are experiencing problems with those as well. The select team kids skip practice regularly and most of the time we are struggling to have 5 kids to play a game. This is basketball..