Anonymous
02/15/2026 13:57
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
I would find a way to mention that your sibling is going to be in town. It would be rude to ask for an invitation, but once they know sibling will be there anyway they will probably invite them.
Anonymous
02/15/2026 13:14
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not being Jewish is irrelevant
This might be a shock to you but to some people a bar mitzvah isn’t a world event. They don’t expect others who don’t practice Judaism to take time off to travel to attend a religious event they know little about.
Your selfishness is interesting to watch
Omfg. They’re not local. That’s the difference. And the bar mitzvah is a small one.
Reading comp is a skill. You obviously don’t have it
NP. I think you've misconstrued the PP's intent. I took it as being Jewish is not a prerequisite for being invited. I'm not Jewish and growing up I attended many bar and bat mitzvahs. I think you need to think beyond your own narrow lens.
Anonymous
02/15/2026 13:07
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
You don’t ask for an invitation. You say “hey, I didn’t know if you realized X would be in town on the day of the bar mitzvah. Just wanted to mention it in case you wanted to invite them.” And change the subject.
Anonymous
02/15/2026 11:44
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not being Jewish is irrelevant
This might be a shock to you but to some people a bar mitzvah isn’t a world event. They don’t expect others who don’t practice Judaism to take time off to travel to attend a religious event they know little about.
Your selfishness is interesting to watch
NP. I think you've misconstrued the PP's intent. I took it as being Jewish is not a prerequisite for being invited. I'm not Jewish and growing up I attended many bar and bat mitzvahs. I think you need to think beyond your own narrow lens.
Anonymous
02/15/2026 11:40
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Anonymous wrote:Not being Jewish is irrelevant
This might be a shock to you but to some people a bar mitzvah isn’t a world event. They don’t expect others who don’t practice Judaism to take time off to travel to attend a religious event they know little about.
Your selfishness is interesting to watch
Anonymous
02/15/2026 01:25
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
I'd ask if your invite includes a plus one, because your brother is in town, and I assume they'd say of course, he can come and bring his family.
Anonymous
02/15/2026 01:18
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Not being Jewish is irrelevant
Anonymous
02/14/2026 21:33
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Anonymous wrote:This makes no sense OP at all
No one has a bar mitzvah and leaves out family unless there is an issue more than they live out of town
They’re not Jewish.
Anonymous
02/14/2026 21:32
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Anonymous wrote:Ask the host. I've never heard of out-of-town relatives being excluded unless there was another reason.
Op. My immediate family is not Jewish, live far away and the bar mitzvah is not a huge event. It’s no more than that.
Anonymous
02/14/2026 21:17
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
This makes no sense OP at all
No one has a bar mitzvah and leaves out family unless there is an issue more than they live out of town
No one has a bar mitzvah and leaves out family unless there is an issue more than they live out of town
Anonymous
02/14/2026 21:08
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
Ask the host. I've never heard of out-of-town relatives being excluded unless there was another reason.
Anonymous
02/14/2026 17:39
Subject: Local family bar mitzvah coming up and I’m the only one from my side of the family invited
makes sense bc my siblings live out of town. BUT one of them will likely be visiting at the same time.
Do I ask the host for an extra invite? They probably would have been invited if local
Do I ask the host for an extra invite? They probably would have been invited if local