Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:11
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
OP, if you aren't a troll. I think it's really sad that you can't see from your post why your daughter feels about you the way she does. IT seems like the therapist may be onto seomthing. I am so sorry, but your kid probably does have a lot of ossues from you. I wonder if her therapist might have someone YOU Can see to suggest
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:09
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She didn’t work while in college? How does she pay rent now? The weight shaming is 100% uncool.
She worked a bunch of random jobs in college (manager of her school's garden, RA for prof), but these aren't jobs that are available for alumni at her school -- they only hire current students. She paid rent through a barista job, but she got fired a few months ago.
Being overweight (at a BMI of 25, which is on the cusp) is not "100% uncool." Being that overweight is a SIGNIFICANT impediment to getting a job offer as a young woman.
You are sickening.
Team daughter
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:09
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
My neighbor has a daughter who is now 29 in a horrible relationship, dead end job and always asking them for money.
Growing up, I didn’t see any issues with upbringing, their other kids are fine.
It really is the dd. It’s unfortunate the therapist is making things worse. A lot of them tell their patients what they want to hear so they keep going back for validation.
I wish I could offer you advice. Who is paying for her therapy? Is she on your insurance? You might need to find a therapist to help you navigate this. I totally understand thru my neighbor that it is impossible to point some people in the right direction.
Growing up, I didn’t see any issues with upbringing, their other kids are fine.
It really is the dd. It’s unfortunate the therapist is making things worse. A lot of them tell their patients what they want to hear so they keep going back for validation.
I wish I could offer you advice. Who is paying for her therapy? Is she on your insurance? You might need to find a therapist to help you navigate this. I totally understand thru my neighbor that it is impossible to point some people in the right direction.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:08
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Anonymous wrote:Hi,
I'm the OP of the "Adult Failure to Launch DD Stealing from Me" thread. My daughter (now 24) graduated from a liberal arts college full of entitled students (think Oberlin/Wesleyan-type school) with a BA in English when we encouraged her to major in something more lucrative. So now, of course, she's unemployed and blaming us for all of her problems, both with mental health and with being unemployed. She doesn't live with us, thankfully -- she lives in a medium COL city in a different part of the country with a college friend.
She wouldn't visit us over the holidays because she's convinced that DH and I were "controlling her financially all throughout college by making college funding contingent on me attending church when I don't believe in God" and that we "only know how to control her financially and don't have any real relationship with your only daughter except for one that consists of financial control" and that we've "ruined her with generational trauma" and all this ridiculous psychobabble that she unfortunately has picked up from her therapist (who is convinced, wrongly, that we're the root of all of her problems, but I digress).
Keep in mind that my daughter is extremely unlikable, entitled, and irritating. She's never been in a relationship in her life, because she has an EXTREMELY unlikeable personality and is borderline overweight (she's 5'6' and 155 lbs, which is unhealthy at her age). She's been unemployed and "searching for a job" since she graduated from college in May.
I emphasized to her that maybe 9 months of "searching for a job" has shown that her strategy has been ineffective, and she needs to go back to school for a more lucrative degree than her BA in English if she wants a chance of getting a normal office job. But she REFUSES, because she's entitled, delusional, and extremely narcissistic.
And she keeps begging me and DH for money (we refuse) or to help her financially to buy a used car (we also refuse).
Has anyone else dealt with this? TIA!
A degree in English means she can communicate OP.
Why are you still ranting?
She is an adult cut her off if you don't that's on you.
Given your posts are really cringy my guess is you sucked as a parent.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:06
Subject: Re:Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
PS:
Your post makes me sick.
Your post makes me sick.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:05
Subject: Re:Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Both of you have problems.
Making someone attend religious services in order to have college paid for is controlling.
The job market is tough and you do not sound empathetic at all.
You are fat shaming your child.
I had a friend like this. Always blaming her child without taking any responsibility.
Are you ever wrong, OP?
Making someone attend religious services in order to have college paid for is controlling.
The job market is tough and you do not sound empathetic at all.
You are fat shaming your child.
I had a friend like this. Always blaming her child without taking any responsibility.
Are you ever wrong, OP?
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:03
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
If I was your kid I wouldn't talk to you either. Clearly she got some of her alleged personality faults from you. Get her a used car. She can pay insurance and sort her life out from there.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:03
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
The job market is crap right now. Nine months isn’t that long, and way too soon to be thinking about going directly back to school.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 18:00
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
This is essentially the pilot episode of Girls.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 17:59
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s sad that you clearly don’t like her. I feel bad for her. She needs to free herself from you to get it together.
She keeps telling us that she doesn't want to talk to us -- and then begs us for money! So clearly she's not interested in "freeing herself" from me or DH.
Well, then keep refusing to give her money and that’s that. What else is there to say? She’s an adult and she’ll have to figure it out.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 17:56
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Anonymous wrote:It’s sad that you clearly don’t like her. I feel bad for her. She needs to free herself from you to get it together.
She keeps telling us that she doesn't want to talk to us -- and then begs us for money! So clearly she's not interested in "freeing herself" from me or DH.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 17:55
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
It’s sad that you clearly don’t like her. I feel bad for her. She needs to free herself from you to get it together.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 17:54
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Anonymous wrote:She didn’t work while in college? How does she pay rent now? The weight shaming is 100% uncool.
She worked a bunch of random jobs in college (manager of her school's garden, RA for prof), but these aren't jobs that are available for alumni at her school -- they only hire current students. She paid rent through a barista job, but she got fired a few months ago.
Being overweight (at a BMI of 25, which is on the cusp) is not "100% uncool." Being that overweight is a SIGNIFICANT impediment to getting a job offer as a young woman.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 17:52
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
She didn’t work while in college? How does she pay rent now? The weight shaming is 100% uncool.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 17:32
Subject: Failure to Launch Daughter Is Unemployed and Blaming Me for All of Her Problems
Hi,
I'm the OP of the "Adult Failure to Launch DD Stealing from Me" thread. My daughter (now 24) graduated from a liberal arts college full of entitled students (think Oberlin/Wesleyan-type school) with a BA in English when we encouraged her to major in something more lucrative. So now, of course, she's unemployed and blaming us for all of her problems, both with mental health and with being unemployed. She doesn't live with us, thankfully -- she lives in a medium COL city in a different part of the country with a college friend.
She wouldn't visit us over the holidays because she's convinced that DH and I were "controlling her financially all throughout college by making college funding contingent on me attending church when I don't believe in God" and that we "only know how to control her financially and don't have any real relationship with your only daughter except for one that consists of financial control" and that we've "ruined her with generational trauma" and all this ridiculous psychobabble that she unfortunately has picked up from her therapist (who is convinced, wrongly, that we're the root of all of her problems, but I digress).
Keep in mind that my daughter is extremely unlikable, entitled, and irritating. She's never been in a relationship in her life, because she has an EXTREMELY unlikeable personality and is borderline overweight (she's 5'6' and 155 lbs, which is unhealthy at her age). She's been unemployed and "searching for a job" since she graduated from college in May.
I emphasized to her that maybe 9 months of "searching for a job" has shown that her strategy has been ineffective, and she needs to go back to school for a more lucrative degree than her BA in English if she wants a chance of getting a normal office job. But she REFUSES, because she's entitled, delusional, and extremely narcissistic.
And she keeps begging me and DH for money (we refuse) or to help her financially to buy a used car (we also refuse).
Has anyone else dealt with this? TIA!
I'm the OP of the "Adult Failure to Launch DD Stealing from Me" thread. My daughter (now 24) graduated from a liberal arts college full of entitled students (think Oberlin/Wesleyan-type school) with a BA in English when we encouraged her to major in something more lucrative. So now, of course, she's unemployed and blaming us for all of her problems, both with mental health and with being unemployed. She doesn't live with us, thankfully -- she lives in a medium COL city in a different part of the country with a college friend.
She wouldn't visit us over the holidays because she's convinced that DH and I were "controlling her financially all throughout college by making college funding contingent on me attending church when I don't believe in God" and that we "only know how to control her financially and don't have any real relationship with your only daughter except for one that consists of financial control" and that we've "ruined her with generational trauma" and all this ridiculous psychobabble that she unfortunately has picked up from her therapist (who is convinced, wrongly, that we're the root of all of her problems, but I digress).
Keep in mind that my daughter is extremely unlikable, entitled, and irritating. She's never been in a relationship in her life, because she has an EXTREMELY unlikeable personality and is borderline overweight (she's 5'6' and 155 lbs, which is unhealthy at her age). She's been unemployed and "searching for a job" since she graduated from college in May.
I emphasized to her that maybe 9 months of "searching for a job" has shown that her strategy has been ineffective, and she needs to go back to school for a more lucrative degree than her BA in English if she wants a chance of getting a normal office job. But she REFUSES, because she's entitled, delusional, and extremely narcissistic.
And she keeps begging me and DH for money (we refuse) or to help her financially to buy a used car (we also refuse).
Has anyone else dealt with this? TIA!