1) Does adhd medication gear toward to treat hyperactive than inattention? It treats both.
2) Does adhd medication cause anxiety, could not fall asleep, and reduce appetite which may stunt growth? Lack of sleep at times, and reduce appetite but they will eat once the pills wear offs. Some studies shows it stunt growth, but not at the end.
3) Does kid that take adhd medication most likely need to take adhd medication for the rest of his/her life? My daughter is a senior and I think so. We will find out soon.
4) Does adhd medication really flush out of body daily which does not cause any harm to the body physically or mentally? I don't think it has anyharm to the body physically or mentally.

My DS has ASD and ADHD and every medication we have tried for the ADHD has significantly spiked his anxiety.

I'm not a MD but as a mental health professional and parent of an ADHD kid, here goes:

Yes, different medications are better than others for targeting inattentiveness vs. impulsiveness/hyperactivity. This is something a doctor would assess when choosing.

One of the non-stimulant medications (guanfacine) that we tried initially did cause anxiety and we discontinued it. The anxiety symptoms were gone within a day. We have not experienced with any other medication tried. Anxiety is also highly correlated with autism. You should find a good psychiatrist who can help you navigate side effects of meds vs. features of autism.

Some studies are finding that some kids who start stimulants early enough do not necessarily need ADHD medications as adults as it literally helps structure their brain to function more like a normal/non-ADHD brain over time. This really depends on the individual.

There are both extended release medications and short-acting medications. This depends on your child's metabolism. For example, my child has a fast metabolism and the long acting medications only actually work for about 5-6 hours. The short acting booster (ritalin) only lasts for 2.5-3 hours. But yes, they are out of their symptoms within a day. For my own child and my patients, I have not seen any physical or mental harm. But like all medical interventions, you weigh the benefit vs. the risk. In this case, the benefits tend to MASSIVELY outweigh the risks. There are decades of research on many of these medications at this point, which any good psychiatrist would be happy to discuss with you.

Good luck OP!

DH has inattentive adhd, but he manages and never needs medication in his life. DS10 has adhd combined, but he seems to manage and does well with no medication. We hold off medication until he really needs it. He can sit still and focuses for long hours if it is needed. He lacks confidence even though he is strong in academic. He has high anxiety and high ego, but he pushes himself a lot because he is a perfectionist. DD7 has adhd combined, and she seems to struggle a lot with inattention and focus at school learning. She is a sweet girl and she just wants to play at school. She is really skinny, 40 lbs only. She lacks confidence. We hesitate to give her adhd medication because of below questions. Can someone answer from your or your child experience?

1) Does adhd medication gear toward to treat hyperactive than inattention?
2) Does adhd medication cause anxiety, could not fall asleep, and reduce appetite which may stunt growth?
3) Does kid that take adhd medication most likely need to take adhd medication for the rest of his/her life?
4) Does adhd medication really flush out of body daily which does not cause any harm to the body physically or mentally?

Both of my kids and DH have high functioning autism if that matters.
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