Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:53     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
Sometimes divorces linger on forever. Still, I think you need to break up; a relationship without trust isn't worth having. You feel she breached your trust, so move on.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:53     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
Ick. That would be a total dealbreaker for me and the fact that it's been 7-8 months and she's STILL not divorced? Definitely sketchy. I would definitely break up over that level of dishonesty.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:51     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
This is definitely not okay.

But something stood out to me, OP. It’s okay for your to be divorced but not for your partner to be?
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:42     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
1. I think people should be honest about their relationship status.

2. Your cousins are shady
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:41     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
It is a lie, she isn't being honest.

And lying about being married vs being divorced is a pretty big lie.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:40     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
Dump her. She’s had plenty of time to come clean on this. She’s also lying about her age.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:38     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
1. I don't like what your cousins said - this kind of defensive behavior occurs in both men and women. It's not limited to women.

2. Yes, I think you should break up.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:35     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
I would break up with someone that did that sorry to say.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:35     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and in relationship with my GF, 43F for about 7-8 months. On the first day, she told me that she was divorced and I didn't care much after that. I am fully divorced for about 8 years. A few things didn't add up and I asked her again recently and she confessed that she is not fully divorced and it is in the process. She just said she was fully divorced on first date otherwise guys don't get interested or serious. This is a serious breach of trust and I am thinking about breaking up with her. I talked to my female cousins and they think it is not a big deal and women do that. Thoughts?


If it’s a big deal to you then it’s a big deal. Follow your own gut instincts and what truth it has for you. I would not be something I could wave off as nothing.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:33     Subject: Re:breaking up with GF - hid divorce
Yes, I would absolutely break up. I dated a man who lied about being divorced. He also lied about many other things, as I later discovered (was seeing other women in parallel, was in a bitter custody dispute with exW while dating me etc)
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:27     Subject: Re:breaking up with GF - hid divorce
If she lies with ease about this, she lies about other things too.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:18     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
I would have dumped her as well.

Trust is too important. She should not have lied.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:15     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
Op, you are right in breaking up with her.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:14     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
I think it's sneaky behavior. She knows that many men have a boundary in place so she lies to get around that. It's creepy.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 18:09     Subject: breaking up with GF - hid divorce
I am 44M and in relationship with my GF, 43F for about 7-8 months. On the first day, she told me that she was divorced and I didn't care much after that. I am fully divorced for about 8 years. A few things didn't add up and I asked her again recently and she confessed that she is not fully divorced and it is in the process. She just said she was fully divorced on first date otherwise guys don't get interested or serious. This is a serious breach of trust and I am thinking about breaking up with her. I talked to my female cousins and they think it is not a big deal and women do that. Thoughts?