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Anonymous wrote:Do you really need an answer? Of course it isn't wrong. Be warned, though, if you are a woman your men friends think that simple acts of kindness and humanity mean that you LIKE them. I think this is because men don't do anything kind or above and beyond unless they want to have sex with you.

What a horribly misandrist thing to say. Were you born wrong or just raised badly?

This has been my experience too. I do have a great guy friend who I know would cross the line, but I have made it clear many times that I would never. I don’t find him attractive at all. But we have a great friendship with really deep conversation that I don’t get anywhere else. I have always struggled with female friendships so being married is hard.

I've always had plenty of straight male friends (as a woman). I am forever suspicious of people who claim its not possible. Says more about them than the possibility of opposite gender friendship.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you really need an answer? Of course it isn't wrong. Be warned, though, if you are a woman your men friends think that simple acts of kindness and humanity mean that you LIKE them. I think this is because men don't do anything kind or above and beyond unless they want to have sex with you.

What a horribly misandrist thing to say. Were you born wrong or just raised badly?

Misandry is a full time hobby for many of the women of DCUM. It's pretty awful.

Anonymous wrote:Do you really need an answer? Of course it isn't wrong. Be warned, though, if you are a woman your men friends think that simple acts of kindness and humanity mean that you LIKE them. I think this is because men don't do anything kind or above and beyond unless they want to have sex with you.

This isn't true. Some men are like that; many are not. I had a male friend for years (married, both of us) that I met through work who definitely wasn't that way. Over time I met his wife, he met my husband, and now we're all friends. I'm probably still closer to him and his wife could not care less if I meet him for lunch or whatever on our own.

Anonymous wrote:Do you really need an answer? Of course it isn't wrong. Be warned, though, if you are a woman your men friends think that simple acts of kindness and humanity mean that you LIKE them. I think this is because men don't do anything kind or above and beyond unless they want to have sex with you.

What a horribly misandrist thing to say. Were you born wrong or just raised badly?

Anonymous wrote:Is it wrong to often hang out alone, online and in person, with other man/woman when you're in a relationship? Is this fine if you are all long time friends?

Only immature and insecure people worry about this.

I have a genuine male friend but he is gay. Other male friends are husband’s friends or girlfriends spouses so we don’t hang out alone and are not too close. At some point I had male friends but with two of them there was attraction (never crossed the line but I was aware of it) and with some others we were colleagues so we were hanging put alone but only for work related lunches and trips

Define “hang out with” OP. There is a lot of nuance here.

I’ve always had male friends, and find it sad that people would automatically discount half the population.

I've always worked in a male-dominated field and I don't love the drama of some women although I have plenty of female friends, some of whom I've been close to for over 30 years.

However, I've always had male friends. We do know one single guy who my husband said he would not want me hanging out with alone (not because he doesn't trust me, I'm not remotely interested in that guy, but because he doesn't trust him), and I can understand why. Otherwise, I hang out with my male friends mostly in groups but haven definitely hung out with them alone.

It's sad that the PP thinks men only want sex from women. My friendships with men aren't about that and the men I know would absolutely do something for me, or my husband, or our children, without expecting that in return. Maybe meet some better men?

I wouldn't put it quite as harshly as PP, but I have not had much luck with opposite sex friendships as a woman. The straight guys who I thought were friends wanted to date me and friendships with gay men tended to stay surface level. I've had much better luck investing in female friendships at every life stage.

Do you really need an answer? Of course it isn't wrong. Be warned, though, if you are a woman your men friends think that simple acts of kindness and humanity mean that you LIKE them. I think this is because men don't do anything kind or above and beyond unless they want to have sex with you.

Anonymous wrote:Yes its wrong

Unless they are Gay or Lesbian in which case they cannot hang out with their own gender.

Bisexuals cannot hang out with either gender.

Yes its wrong

Is it wrong to often hang out alone, online and in person, with other man/woman when you're in a relationship? Is this fine if you are all long time friends?