Anonymous wrote:I think the assumption should be that a random person is telling the truth.

Which is entirely separate from giving them material goods.

The least you can give someone is basic respect, OP. No meal train. Just the gift that you believe them and their particular needs.

Otherwise you're just an arse.

No liars in your world, right?

Bless your heart.

I think the assumption should be that a random person is telling the truth.

Which is entirely separate from giving them material goods.

The least you can give someone is basic respect, OP. No meal train. Just the gift that you believe them and their particular needs.

Otherwise you're just an arse.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

Oh no I read it correctly. Instead of a company paying employees a proper wage or giving paid leave, the employees themselves have to cobble enough pennies together for this co-worker to eat. I'm at a job to work to pay my own bills, why are other employees asking me to support them? You don't think that's disgustingly sad AF? It's not even about healthcare, but as a non-american, reading about employees having to support other employees out of their own pocket instead of the billionaire CEO taking a few less vacation *hours* is crazy town. Unrelated rant to the OP maybe lol.

Bring her some muffins $50 is ridiculous

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

You assume Nicole is truthful. You assume that cliques of mean girls and liars don't exist in small office spaces. I've seen it all. All the women ignoring one woman's birthday. Snide remarks about wealthy husbands, big houses, etc.

I absolutely would not be surprised if it was a huge nothing burger being blown up in secret from some people just because they can. I once had a coworker maintain for 3 months that her dad was in Hospice at The Goodwin House while unaware that my wife worked there. Her dad wasnt even a resident.

In short remember your dad telling you not to trust everyone, because he was right.

You don't need to give anything, OP, but I wouldn't be so quick to make nasty assumptions that this person is milking it and that her medical issue does not warrant so many days off or any help from her community. For all you know, these rumors are untrue; perhaps she has an underlying condition that makes even minor procedures difficult. You just don't know.

So I really don't like your attitude. Even if she was at death's door, there would be no obligation to give her anything. Just stop trying to manufacture reasons why you don't want to donate.

I don't know why you need to put scare quotes around "procedure". You have no idea what's going on, and obviously her supervisor is fine with giving the time off.

That said, you are under no obligation to contribute to gifts/food for someone you don't like.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

i'm not from the US either but i dont think you read the post correctly before you went on what would otherwise be a valid rant about US healthcare

money being asked for is for food etc. That's pretty normal in any country.

2 weeks is a long time to be out after surgery, imagine it's a pretty significant health issue. I would personally donate unless someone actively tried to screw me out of a job or something, but you do you. they shouldn't have asked for $50, they should have asked for whatever people were comfortable giving. i think you could still give what you are comfortable with.

just sign the card. There shouldn't be any tracking of who contributes.

I wouldn't contribute, but I also wouldn't post about it, gossip about it, or think about it at all.

You think she's out for two weeks for a colonoscopy? Just own that you're petty and don't like her.

Don't donate if you don't want to, but it's not nice to speculate it's a hangnail. The procedure could be anything she wants to keep private. Maybe gyn stuff. You have zero right to that information. If her doctor wrote her out for two weeks, it's sufficiently serious for her to be out that long. Asking for 50 pp is a lot so feel free to decline but not because she's not giving you her medical info.

Yeah, that's a no from me.

This is something that I've only ever heard about happening in the US. Just like people "pooling" their pto to "give" to other employees. It really makes the US come off like a very poor, backwards country if you have to beg fellow employees for money to stay afloat.

So anyways, no I wouldn't contribute.

Tough one..small office..hard to hide non participation.
You can say..oh I already sent something.
Then send a token card or cookies etc.

I work in a tiny office of 14 people. One of them we will call Nicole. A month ago Nicole sent an extremely vague email out to everyone letting us know that she'd be out for two weeks. No info given at all. Just a "I'm out for two weeks".

I have heard whispers that it involved some sort of minor procedure in a 'hospital environment'. That is all.

Today, her work bestie sent out a note seeking 'donations of $50 per person' to cover her food delivery for the next week or two.

I've never really cared for Nicole or her bestie. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was something as small as wisdom tooth removal, colonoscopy, skin tag removal, whatever.... or nothing at all.

Would you contribute? I don't think I'm going to even though I know it will cause blowback

I'm not responsible for her care; I'm not made of money; I don't appreciate the secrecy when solicitation is involved; none of my birthdays or doctor's visits involved 'gifts' and I don't like her.

Thoughts?