Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 14:54     Subject: Re:Aggressive kids and sports
This is so classic and what is wrong with parents today.

You're concerned someone laid hands when a fist fight was about to break out? You're looking to be offended about that.

How about asking questions about a youth sports culture that leads up to this and allows this and is this the right place for your kid. What was happening during the game and what was your team's role in it. (I can tell you the correct answer is your team's role was very likely not zero.) What did your coach do to de-escalate? People are nuts and it's a TERRIBLE example for kids. Where do you think kids learn this behavior from?
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 14:37     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:My DS (age 11) plays competitive basketball. After a close bball game recently some of the kids started getting in each other’s faces and I saw another kid motion like he was going to hit my son’s teammate (my DS was standing next to teammate and witnessed this). It happened fast but my son’s friend stepped away quickly and then parents intervened to stop it from escalating. I did see one parent maneuver my son and was annoyed but understood they were trying to help. But should I raise this with the coach or league? I’m not happy that someone else sought to discipline my kid (even though he is fine) and he wasn’t even involved in the near-altercation.
Maneuvering your son isn't punishment. I'm sure the parent was ensuring things didn't escalate.

If anything I'd complain that the kid who was going to hit wasn't kicked out of the game. I was at a rec 10 yo girls basketball game where one girl punched another in the face after the whistle. The refs threw out the puncher. But she cried and the coach argued she should be allowed back because the rules say kids can't punch a ref, not each other. The refs let her back in. I thought that was super wrong and inappropriate.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 13:32     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
OP this story does not make sense.

No parent is randomly putting their hands on your kid.

It sounds like they were trying to do the right thing.

WTH are you angry about?

Your kid should have move away and not get involved in an altercation.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 13:30     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?


What does that even mean? They “put their hands on my son”. It describes nothing.

If you’re worrying that there will be “hands on your son” then take him out of team sports.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 11:28     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?


GTFOH
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 08:58     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?


No. You sound unhinged.


Op-I get this sounds odd but other parents are complaining quite a bit.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 08:17     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?


No. You sound unhinged.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 08:14     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?


No of course not!

You’d be even angrier if the parent had let the other kid hit him, right?

Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 08:10     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
No, I would not be angry in that situation.

I could understand if one of the other kids had touched your son, but if an adult who was seeking to break up a fight just physically moved him out of the way, that was obviously done with goal of protecting your son and the other kids.

Would you be upset at someone for shoving your kid out of the way of a car or picking him up and carrying him out of a fire?
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 08:07     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?


To protect him from the kid on the other team who was threatening to punch his teammate? I’d be thankful.

I thought you were going to say, what can we do about these kids who get too aggressive during sports. Not , how can I complain about other parents stepping in to de-eacalate aggression during sports.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2026 07:47     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
OP here - I was angry someone put their hands on my son. Wouldn’t you be?
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2026 21:46     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
What exactly are you mad about?
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2026 12:17     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Huh?
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2026 11:57     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
Maneuver? What discipline?
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2026 11:47     Subject: Aggressive kids and sports
My DS (age 11) plays competitive basketball. After a close bball game recently some of the kids started getting in each other’s faces and I saw another kid motion like he was going to hit my son’s teammate (my DS was standing next to teammate and witnessed this). It happened fast but my son’s friend stepped away quickly and then parents intervened to stop it from escalating. I did see one parent maneuver my son and was annoyed but understood they were trying to help. But should I raise this with the coach or league? I’m not happy that someone else sought to discipline my kid (even though he is fine) and he wasn’t even involved in the near-altercation.