Pp here. I want to add that i did not attend the wedding of a friend because it made me very uncomfortable but they are still together and faced together great life challenges. You never know..

It is her wedding, not yours. Attend it if you wish. I went to two weddings I knew were doomed but people are free to make their own choices and mistakes

I have found relationship longevity highly unpredictable. Some of the ones I've least expected to matured and grew closer over time. You really do never know. Try to be positive, for her sake.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

This. If you're so sure you can accurately predict the future, buy a lotto ticket.

Ever heard of this little thing called statistics?

Statistics don’t say that 100% of the people on second marriages get divorced. It does sound like this couple is not headed for a long and happy marriage but it’s also not OPs business. She can attend and pretend to be happy of not.

I sat through one of these with my sis in law. Smile, be good. Alienate your friend and you risk isolating her further and not being a source of support when she needs it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

This. If you're so sure you can accurately predict the future, buy a lotto ticket.

Ever heard of this little thing called statistics?

NP
No one’s questioning the stats

OP simply doesn’t get to dictate who her friend chooses to marry.

She's not trying to dictate she's wondering how to keep a straight face at this wedding.

A good concealer?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

This. If you're so sure you can accurately predict the future, buy a lotto ticket.

Ever heard of this little thing called statistics?

NP
No one’s questioning the stats

OP simply doesn’t get to dictate who her friend chooses to marry.

She's not trying to dictate she's wondering how to keep a straight face at this wedding.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

This. If you're so sure you can accurately predict the future, buy a lotto ticket.

Ever heard of this little thing called statistics?

NP
No one’s questioning the stats

OP simply doesn’t get to dictate who her friend chooses to marry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

This. If you're so sure you can accurately predict the future, buy a lotto ticket.

Ever heard of this little thing called statistics?

It is hard when a friend makes terrible choices and they are old enough to know better.

I had a spouse's friend meet a woman and get married within six months, and he very holier than thou and tried to give me marriage advice....I knew they weren't going to work. Two kids later, they divorced within two years of the wedding.

You can't control how people live their lives. It sucks when you're watching an impending disaster, but all you can do is be a friend. I've been there. It was more important for me to be supportive than to say I told you so.

Anonymous wrote:
You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

This. If you're so sure you can accurately predict the future, buy a lotto ticket.

You MYOB.
Attend the wedding or don't.

Yes a former BFF. The guy was a dud but she wouldn't listen. They were divorced within 18 months. We're no longer friends because we're just too different and this sort of dumb decision was typical for her.

I’m attending a friend’s wedding today, her second wedding. A little over a year ago she sat in my living room asking my advice on how to move away from this man (his emotional affair), and now they are getting married. I feel like in a year, she will be back in my living room asking the same question. But she wouldn’t listen to reason and so here we are. I’m struggling with going and pretending everything is fine when I know their history. I guess I’m venting, but this whole thing just makes me roll my eyes.