Anonymous
02/05/2026 21:04
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That was the text just sent to a coworker from my work group chat. Along with a PICTURE of the email. At 19:30. Concerning a non emergency. It was a reminder about a routine event from our boss. And the sender closed with "please confirm receipt."
That's toxic as it gets, right? Trying hard not to be gaslight by kids 20 years younger than me.
How is that gaslighting? Please explain it to me like I'm five.
It's a lot of things. Rude, obnoxious, passive-aggressive. But, it's not "gaslighting." Gaslighting would be trying to persuade you not to believe your own eyes.
I think she's saying that her younger colleagues do not believe it to be passive aggressive and are trying to convince her as such. Which, no, is not really gaslighting, but we got the point.
The only thing more annoying than people who use "gaslighting" in correctly are people who have a coronary every time gaslit is used incorrectly.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:51
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:That was the text just sent to a coworker from my work group chat. Along with a PICTURE of the email. At 19:30. Concerning a non emergency. It was a reminder about a routine event from our boss. And the sender closed with "please confirm receipt."
That's toxic as it gets, right? Trying hard not to be gaslight by kids 20 years younger than me.
How is that gaslighting? Please explain it to me like I'm five.
It's a lot of things. Rude, obnoxious, passive-aggressive. But, it's not "gaslighting." Gaslighting would be trying to persuade you not to believe your own eyes.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:50
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Completely ignore. No response.
+1
Unless you are on call for work these employers are getting egregious with the demands on our time and attention they don’t want to pay for
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:45
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's a lack of perspective and professional immaturity. Not quite toxic. That person needs a mentor before s/he wraps herself too tightly around the axel and mentally snaps in half.
Sender is 37, has a BS and a MS, and has been in white collar roles for 6 years.
That's crazy because they're doing something my 65yo boss and a colleague in her 50s do.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:43
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
I wouldn't say it's as toxic as it gets but I certainly wouldn't be answering until 9am tomorrow lol.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:43
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Simply would not interact with it and respond tomorrow morning.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:25
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
I might respond — is there a reason you needed a response priori to tomorrow morning?
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:54
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Just remove yourself from the group. I’ve never been in a work group chat on my personal phone. No thank you.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:54
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Completely ignore. No response.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:52
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:It's a lack of perspective and professional immaturity. Not quite toxic. That person needs a mentor before s/he wraps herself too tightly around the axel and mentally snaps in half.
Sender is 37, has a BS and a MS, and has been in white collar roles for 6 years.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:52
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
You can confirm receipt, tomorrow morning when you log on to work email.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:50
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Why does everyone give out their personal cellphones to coworkers/bosses?
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:44
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Is this 20 years younger person your new boss? If so, it might be that people are blowing her off and not taking her seriously. So she is being heavy handed to gain control.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:41
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
It's a lack of perspective and professional immaturity. Not quite toxic. That person needs a mentor before s/he wraps herself too tightly around the axel and mentally snaps in half.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 19:38
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
That was the text just sent to a coworker from my work group chat. Along with a PICTURE of the email. At 19:30. Concerning a non emergency. It was a reminder about a routine event from our boss. And the sender closed with "please confirm receipt."
That's toxic as it gets, right? Trying hard not to be gaslight by kids 20 years younger than me.
That's toxic as it gets, right? Trying hard not to be gaslight by kids 20 years younger than me.