Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Outside of the usual dating apps - hinge, bumble, CMB, the league etc., what type of meetups or activities or other groups etc helping you meet a partner? Looking for men in their 30s and 40s for marriage, and getting very tired of all the ghosting/short term relationships on dating apps. I’m thinking of adding 1-2 in person meetups per week (with the hope of casting a wider net, but not necessarily dating events). Insights appreciated!

Church/religious community

Be as hot as possible and date men who are a level or two below you in the looks department.

Do not have sex until you are in a committed relationship.

She's not 22. This is advice for a hot 20-something. Not for a middle-aged DC 5.

Anonymous wrote:Outside of the usual dating apps - hinge, bumble, CMB, the league etc., what type of meetups or activities or other groups etc helping you meet a partner? Looking for men in their 30s and 40s for marriage, and getting very tired of all the ghosting/short term relationships on dating apps. I’m thinking of adding 1-2 in person meetups per week (with the hope of casting a wider net, but not necessarily dating events). Insights appreciated!

Church/religious community

Be as hot as possible and date men who are a level or two below you in the looks department.

Do not have sex until you are in a committed relationship.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if you're really good in bed he's going to want to lock it down. Focus on your bedroom skills and you'll have a higher conversion rate on your short-term =>long term transition.

Sad but true. I know a great looking dude, tall and big wallet that is locking down a woman that is several steps below him in desirability. He says she isn't replaceable in bed.

What the heck does she do that’s so great?

I think you know.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if you're really good in bed he's going to want to lock it down. Focus on your bedroom skills and you'll have a higher conversion rate on your short-term =>long term transition.

Sad but true. I know a great looking dude, tall and big wallet that is locking down a woman that is several steps below him in desirability. He says she isn't replaceable in bed.

Exactly. The delusion on some of these women thinking the guy is looking for a great conversationalist or that he give half a f*ck about their violets.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if you're really good in bed he's going to want to lock it down. Focus on your bedroom skills and you'll have a higher conversion rate on your short-term =>long term transition.

Sad but true. I know a great looking dude, tall and big wallet that is locking down a woman that is several steps below him in desirability. He says she isn't replaceable in bed.

What the heck does she do that’s so great?

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if you're really good in bed he's going to want to lock it down. Focus on your bedroom skills and you'll have a higher conversion rate on your short-term =>long term transition.

Sad but true. I know a great looking dude, tall and big wallet that is locking down a woman that is several steps below him in desirability. He says she isn't replaceable in bed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Outside of the usual dating apps - hinge, bumble, CMB, the league etc., what type of meetups or activities or other groups etc helping you meet a partner? Looking for men in their 30s and 40s for marriage, and getting very tired of all the ghosting/short term relationships on dating apps. I’m thinking of adding 1-2 in person meetups per week (with the hope of casting a wider net, but not necessarily dating events). Insights appreciated!

OP here. I should add that I went on 50+ dates last year and was excited about less than 5 of the guys I met from hinge and bumble. (One moved away and lost touch with another due to an unexpected job search - so nothing panned out). But it’s just been alot of work, and I’m hoping to improve the quality of guys I’m meeting, so we can move on to the relationship part!

This is a pretty bad percentage. I would consider why you are matching with so many people who are not a good fit. Maybe your profile needs a different focus. Or maybe your standards are unrealistic. I'm not sure there is any reason to believe you'll find a higher percentage of matches in person.

I'd do this for the next few months-
Tell friends you're looking, and ask if they know any kind men (give age range but stay open.)
Tell others you're looking if it comes up organically (at parties, etc.)
Learn how to talk to men and everyone (in grocery stores, on the metro, everywhere) and be approachable and be willing to approach. Be your own matchmaker (i.e. Great coat! Do you know where [frozen item] is? How's your week going?)
Remember to do your own hobbies that make you happy, interested, and interesting (i.e.
imagine there were no apps or online. Really think: how would you meet people?

J-date

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Outside of the usual dating apps - hinge, bumble, CMB, the league etc., what type of meetups or activities or other groups etc helping you meet a partner? Looking for men in their 30s and 40s for marriage, and getting very tired of all the ghosting/short term relationships on dating apps. I’m thinking of adding 1-2 in person meetups per week (with the hope of casting a wider net, but not necessarily dating events). Insights appreciated!

OP here. I should add that I went on 50+ dates last year and was excited about less than 5 of the guys I met from hinge and bumble. (One moved away and lost touch with another due to an unexpected job search - so nothing panned out). But it’s just been alot of work, and I’m hoping to improve the quality of guys I’m meeting, so we can move on to the relationship part!

Might be worth your time to hire a matchmaker. My friend found his wife using one.

Anonymous wrote:Activities that you truly enjoy is the way. Try some activities and then focus on the ones that have suitable men.

This. A hiking or biking club, wine tasting class, woodworking, whatever excited you.

Also, church/synagogue/mosque

Anonymous wrote:Outside of the usual dating apps - hinge, bumble, CMB, the league etc., what type of meetups or activities or other groups etc helping you meet a partner? Looking for men in their 30s and 40s for marriage, and getting very tired of all the ghosting/short term relationships on dating apps. I’m thinking of adding 1-2 in person meetups per week (with the hope of casting a wider net, but not necessarily dating events). Insights appreciated!

OP here. I should add that I went on 50+ dates last year and was excited about less than 5 of the guys I met from hinge and bumble. (One moved away and lost touch with another due to an unexpected job search - so nothing panned out). But it’s just been alot of work, and I’m hoping to improve the quality of guys I’m meeting, so we can move on to the relationship part!

Activities that you truly enjoy is the way. Try some activities and then focus on the ones that have suitable men.

Honestly, if you're really good in bed he's going to want to lock it down. Focus on your bedroom skills and you'll have a higher conversion rate on your short-term =>long term transition.

Outside of the usual dating apps - hinge, bumble, CMB, the league etc., what type of meetups or activities or other groups etc helping you meet a partner? Looking for men in their 30s and 40s for marriage, and getting very tired of all the ghosting/short term relationships on dating apps. I’m thinking of adding 1-2 in person meetups per week (with the hope of casting a wider net, but not necessarily dating events). Insights appreciated!