There have been great efforts made the last few years to get girls to study STEM. It's worked out well. Now time to focus on boys.

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Anonymous wrote:Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

There is definitely no dating going on. My daughter has packs of girlfriends and is always meeting more but it's rare that she even has an opportunity to talk to a guy. The average-to-good looking guys have their pick of any girl they want.

It's kind of an issue but there's not anything to do and culturally they're all in it together. The girls just keep investing in female friendship.

I guess you have to make the best of the situation but ... are there really no straight guys in college to date??

are the straight guys who are there dating anyone?

I think the situation is that because there are so many girls, only the top of the pecking order get male attention. At most schools these are Instgram-model glam for lack of a better descriptive. I know this sounds nuts but my daughter and friends who are "regular girl pretty" are fairly invisible despite being open to dating very average guys. t'a a hard dynamic and isn't helped by how busy kids are these days.

A number of studies have been done that investigate the change in prestige of organizations over time. A major marker of prestige decline is that a formerly male-dominated field becomes female-dominated. The decline is prestige is not caused by increased female participation--it is a result of the diminished prestige of the org.

Men stop striving to attain spots in the org.

Bring back recess. That helps boys a lot with socialization and gives them an outlet for excess energy. Boys did fine with college admissions until No Child Left Behind destroyed the natural development for boys.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

There is definitely no dating going on. My daughter has packs of girlfriends and is always meeting more but it's rare that she even has an opportunity to talk to a guy. The average-to-good looking guys have their pick of any girl they want.

It's kind of an issue but there's not anything to do and culturally they're all in it together. The girls just keep investing in female friendship.

I guess you have to make the best of the situation but ... are there really no straight guys in college to date??

are the straight guys who are there dating anyone?

Make test scores required. I know a few boys who did really well on standardized exams but didn’t have great grades in high school in part because executive disfunction. They all ended up graduating from college, often times in engineering.

the problem is that elite college admissions nowadays requires one to create a resume juggling so many extracurricular at a high level in addition to maintaining a near perfect GPA with high rigor courseload. This naturally favors students who have project management and executive function skills that I bet many adults do not even have. On average, girls are
better able to juggle all
this particularly in the early high school years because they mature faster and just tend to be more organized. Obviously, there are outliers for both females and males, but I’m just talking about general trends. I bet many of those smart but somewhat scattered
boys mature and “get it” by late high school and college, but by then it is hard to catch up to those who have been building up the resume experiences and skills from an earlier age.

Anonymous wrote:I think some efforts should be made early on during middle school to help males with executive function, focus and organization. Male brains lag behind female brains in terms of development pace.

Maybe males should start kindergarten 2 years later than females?

I wouldn't want my DS to start 2 years later, but I do agree from observation that boys need a little more help. It is not to say that they are not as "smart" just that their immaturity in organizing a narrative to have a good story to get top admission is lacking. For the most part, they are just not well put together like the girls we know by 17.

Anonymous wrote:Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

There is definitely no dating going on. My daughter has packs of girlfriends and is always meeting more but it's rare that she even has an opportunity to talk to a guy. The average-to-good looking guys have their pick of any girl they want.

It's kind of an issue but there's not anything to do and culturally they're all in it together. The girls just keep investing in female friendship.

Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

I think some efforts should be made early on during middle school to help males with executive function, focus and organization. Male brains lag behind female brains in terms of development pace.

Maybe males should start kindergarten 2 years later than females?

Is there a question?

Anonymous wrote:This will be talked about as a big crisis in 5 years.

It has already been talked about for more than five years.

This will be talked about as a big crisis in 5 years.

Sample gender breakdown by College:

UCLA: F:60%, M:39%
NYU: F:59%, M:41%
UC Davis: F:59%, M:40%
Georgetown: F:58%, M:40%
Boston U: F:58%, M:42%
UW: F:57%, M:43%
UCSB: F:57%, M:42%
Emory: F:57%, M:43%
UC Berkeley: F:55%, M:43%
Tufts: F:55%, M:45%
Amherst College: F:54%, M:44%

https://machronicle.com/colleges-face-widening-gender-imbalance/
https://www.uvm.edu/magazine/news/where-are-men
https://www.bostonglobe.com/2026/01/30/metro/men-college-campus-enrollment-declines/