Anonymous wrote:Taking our daughter to a volleyball tournament where we will likely have a team dinner that night. We are 48 and 49, married for 20years. We don’t need a made up Hallmark holiday to celebrate our love.

This, although we/re 46. Our kids have things Friday night and Saturday so that's what we'll be doing. We celebrate our marriage year round and had a very nice dinner out last week just because we wanted to.

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Anonymous wrote:Late 40s, married 23 years, no plans, no gifts. Never have had plans except maybe the first year we were dating, and we’re ok with that.

Same. It's just a day to avoid restaurants for us.

+2. early 50's, married 20 years, will make dinner at home like we do every Saturday and maybe a fancier dessert.

Nothing other than cards/flowers. It's in the middle of a holiday weekend, and we'll be at our second home with our teen DS. I'm not going to ditch him so DH and I can go out on a night where most restaurants will have limited menus and be understaffed.

I have no idea this year. I was just thinking that I should see what DH wants to do. It was a big deal when we were young but now in our 50s and married for 25+ years, it just doesn’t feel important. It’s the every day that matters more. When the kids were young, we’d include them on the day. Some years we made heart shaped pizzas which was always fun. Often we have gone for a date alone the day before or after when restaurants weren’t crazy. But these are never over the top romantic or expensive. I suspect I’ll just make us a nice dinner at home (with whichever young adult might be home).

Married 17 years. We are going out for dinner at a fancy restaurant. We are fairly new into being able to go out for the evening without having to get any kind of childcare. After so many years of Valentine’s Day being about decorating shoeboxes and taping lollipops to little cards, it’s so nice to do something romantic together.

I probably will still make my traditional heart shaped meatloaf for lunch .

48/50 together 32 years. We will be celebrating our grandsons 14th birthday since he is a valentines baby. Other than that nothing as valentines day is not a big deal to either of us.

Anonymous wrote:Late 40s, married 23 years, no plans, no gifts. Never have had plans except maybe the first year we were dating, and we’re ok with that.

Same. It's just a day to avoid restaurants for us.

Late 40s, married 23 years, no plans, no gifts. Never have had plans except maybe the first year we were dating, and we’re ok with that.

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Taking our daughter to a volleyball tournament where we will likely have a team dinner that night. We are 48 and 49, married for 20years. We don’t need a made up Hallmark holiday to celebrate our love.

We are 47 and 48, married for 24 years. We’re seeing a play - not on purpose for Valentine’s Day, just happened to be the day for this show in our subscription at the Shakespeare Theatre.

Age 40/30, dating 6 months. We’re going to a drag burlesque show and seeing a psychic.

Anonymous wrote:We might drop the kids off at a "kids night out" at a local museum on Friday and go out to dinner.

On Saturday we'll cook at home, like we used to do when we were broke grad students dating and engaged. Our "traditional" V-Day meal is a salad with fresh mozzarella, nice ravioli from an Italian deli, and a dessert (tbd). Will have to make enough for the kids now!

Oh, I'm 40 and we've been together 17 years.

We might drop the kids off at a "kids night out" at a local museum on Friday and go out to dinner.

On Saturday we'll cook at home, like we used to do when we were broke grad students dating and engaged. Our "traditional" V-Day meal is a salad with fresh mozzarella, nice ravioli from an Italian deli, and a dessert (tbd). Will have to make enough for the kids now!

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