Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What self respecting late 40 year old sleeps on a couch? Be a grown up and sleep in a hotel with a bed.

It was a figure of speech since we knew each other as college students and it was par for the course then. Chill

Wait, so where is he actually going to sleep then?

Okay so my question wasn’t whether to say yes or no.
My question is - will he make the move?
Honestly I don’t think so but I am curious
-OP

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

Oh I missed that he was married. No messing around then. Set clear boundaries and stick with them.

But will he try?! That is the question

Anonymous wrote:What self respecting late 40 year old sleeps on a couch? Be a grown up and sleep in a hotel with a bed.

It was a figure of speech since we knew each other as college students and it was par for the course then. Chill

What self respecting late 40 year old sleeps on a couch? Be a grown up and sleep in a hotel with a bed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

Oh I missed that he was married. No messing around then. Set clear boundaries and stick with them.

Anonymous wrote:Did he tell his wife where he is staying?
Don’t say yes if he asks.

I have no idea what he told her, maybe that he is staying with this fat friend of his lol

Did he tell his wife where he is staying?
Don’t say yes if he asks.

Anonymous wrote:I have integrity and would never hook up with a guy who is married. I am a girl's girl, and would never be that person. If he made a move on him I'd rebuff him and tell him it's best he go stay in a hotel. We would no longer be friends, because I'd have lost respect for him.

PS. Being overweight doesn't automatically make you less good looking than someone skinny. There are plenty of ugly women and guys who are fit.

Might be worth adding that we are from a culture where a woman’s looks mean a lot!

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

He does have other business in town (not just coming to see me or the area).
I won’t say no if he makes the move, but I am not going to make the first move because he is so much better looking I feel self-conscious, plus I don’t want to hear the “but I’m married”.

I have integrity and would never hook up with a guy who is married. I am a girl's girl, and would never be that person. If he made a move on him I'd rebuff him and tell him it's best he go stay in a hotel. We would no longer be friends, because I'd have lost respect for him.

PS. Being overweight doesn't automatically make you less good looking than someone skinny. There are plenty of ugly women and guys who are fit.

Anonymous wrote:Since he didn't flirt with you at your last meetings, im gonna say no, but do update us!

That’s what I think as well, but will update!

Be an adult. Set the boundaries you want to set. Communicate. If it gets flirty, decide what you want to do but accept it would be just sex with nothing else.

Unless he has other business in town, then yes he would likely enjoy being invited into your bed. If he is coming just into see you and hang out with you, he is hoping for Netflix and chill

Since he didn't flirt with you at your last meetings, im gonna say no, but do update us!

This is just out of curiosity, I have a boring life so this event mildly excites me.
Here are the facts.
- a childhood friend is coming to stay with me for a week.
-we will be in my apartment alone
- we had a fling in our 20s and I was his first
-he is athletic and I am not, I am somewhat overweight but not obese. In short he is better looking
- we have stayed more or less in touch and have met briefly a few years ago
-he did not show any romantic inclinations during those meetings
- he is married
-I am not going to flirt with him (obviously)
- he was the one who asked if he could “crash on my couch”
- we are both in our late 40s

What does DCUM think? Is he going to try to sleep with me or no?