We do have a group and feel thankful as it makes being empty nesters easier. More so because we don't have siblings, cousins or kids here in our state.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend group of 7+ moms in my neighborhood. We hang out, party, go on vacations, support each other. They are amazing and wonderful people. Zero drama.

How many years have you been friends?

About 9 years I guess!

Yes, a small group that I see every week and go out with our husbands every other month or so.

I also have a few friends outside that group that I see regularly, just individually.

I did but also notice the older we get, the less people want to put up with. Some get cranky and resentful and others have less tolerance for those changes in personality. Even people who claim that doesn't describe them are often the worst offenders.

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend group of 7+ moms in my neighborhood. We hang out, party, go on vacations, support each other. They are amazing and wonderful people. Zero drama.

How many years have you been friends?

I have a friend group of 7+ moms in my neighborhood. We hang out, party, go on vacations, support each other. They are amazing and wonderful people. Zero drama.

No. I just do individual friends. Groups exhaust me. Yes I’m an introvert

No. I discussed this at length and some other thread.

Most people don’t have friends groups, but that doesn’t mean they’re lonely and have no friends.

Friends groups in my opinion are a disaster. I’ve never known a friend group where everybody gets along or there hasn’t been some huge drama.

I’m usually friends with one or two people in a friend group and they’ll invite me to a couple things where the whole group is there but the dynamic is wild. I wish I could write a book.

My closest friend was in sorority so once a year I go to the beach with all her sorority friends. Most of them hate each other..

My closest neighbor friend has a big friends group so when she has cookouts and stuff I’m invited. Most friends are really nice, but there are some wild people in that group and they eventually had a big blowup and fractured and she’s friends with maybe three of them.

I think it’s just more normal to have one or two good friends. A couple acquaintances. And people you see now and then at your hobbies, like Pickle Ball, tennis, golf, or whatever you like to do.

I do. I have a larger friend group, smaller friend groups, but mostly prefer my one on one time or the smaller groups (like 3-4 of us). The larger friend group is fine and can be really fun- we have several annual theme gatherings we do every year, but as with all larger groups, there are people there I am much closer to than others, but I like everyone and there is no gossip or anything like that.

No. I don’t like friend groups - the superficiality of the interactions isn’t for me - I am not enough of an extrovert that I enjoy just standing around and chatting for it’s own sake on a regular basis.

That said … now that I am older and have more free time, I think I would like a “friend group” that was actually an activity group. I’m going to start looking around for that.

I do. Neighborhood people mostly who I’ve met over the years through kids school, sports, and volunteering at both. There’s a larger group of folks who know each other but perhaps not well and then a tighter group basically defined by a group text thread that was started years ago but which became the default way of saying “hey, anyone want to meet up for coffee this weekend?”

It’s definitely nice to have but I don’t value those relationships as much as individual close friends I’ve made over the years. There are people in the friend group that I’d never talk to again if I moved away with no regrets.

I think the key to finding a group like that is (1) being.active in your community and (2) hosting things/initiating. My local friend group expanded substantially when I started inviting people to events who I kind of knew and seemed fun and who others in my community knew better. It felt awkward to do but I made a lot of friends that way and those people started inviting me to other stuff where I met more people and the group snowballed. Another good way is to leverage a group text you are already on to make a suggestion for a get together, especially if you are tight with one person in the group who can join you (“Susie and I are going to grab drinks Saturday - stp by if you’d like)”)

We are becoming a loneliner nation. With every generation, people have less and less friends and that's true for both men and women.

You can thank the Tech Bros for this. These autistic A*holes, lonely AF, weird antisocial basically "transfered" their way of life onto us via technology. From dating apps to social media platforms, they have successfully managed in making us more and more isolated like them.

Even friendships today are superficial. I read an article that said that vast amount of people can go an entire week without talking to a stranger even just saying "good morning". It's crazy.

Nope. No need.
Gets too messy anyways... Which isn't my energy.

While I do have a friend group it's long distance and mostly online. We get together in person at most once a year.

This article suggests most adults don’t.


https://www.theatlantic.com/family/2026/01/friend-group-loneliness/685528/?gift=tw37IBZUPuJJACA-LBJHBmwgu3t8uD-qkffyq8LN_Vk