Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

Yes, this is the dilemma and one of the reasons I am usually laid back about it.

NOT that I would allow her to go to anyone’s house before a snowstorm and not arrange to pick her up at a reasonable hour. It honestly baffles me that so many parents are like this (from my sample size).

Either these parents are extremely laid back, or most of her friends come from dysfunctional families, which is another type of worry.

You are not laid back about it. That is the issue.

Anonymous wrote:Enforce the boundaries you set

+1

Either way, let this one go. Buy yourself one or two nice matching sweat suits and be grateful your girl comes from a stable home and is willing to help others. You cam say, Larla, please have your room picked up or whatever chore done, before your frienda come over, and then adress that if it's a problem.

As is, I would be thrilled if that was our issuee with teen DD

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

Yes, this is the dilemma and one of the reasons I am usually laid back about it.

NOT that I would allow her to go to anyone’s house before a snowstorm and not arrange to pick her up at a reasonable hour. It honestly baffles me that so many parents are like this (from my sample size).

Either these parents are extremely laid back, or most of her friends come from dysfunctional families, which is another type of worry.

Tbe teen years are hard OP. I’d have been ok with a one night sleepover but not this ongoing situation.
You gotta put your foot down.

Anonymous wrote:The correct usage is never “a myriad of,” it is simply “myriad reasons.”

Thanks.

Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

You're the adult. Use your words. "Oh, sorry girls, Serena isn't allowed to have any friends over until she's completed all her chores and cleaned up her room. Another time." And then walk them to the door.

The correct usage is never “a myriad of,” it is simply “myriad reasons.”

Enforce the boundaries you set

Say no

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This time in your life is short. My DD just had 3 friends here for 3 nights. They made great memories. Yes it was annoying I couldn't wear my regular PJs and slum it on the couch/fall asleep there but it was a few days.

I’m usually pretty laid back about her friends coming over, but right now I am feeling being take advantage of. It feels she only comes to me half sweet when she needs something.

Her grades are not that great because of slacking off this semester, she does her chores after pulling teeth, and only half assed because the princess doesn’t like, is “disgusted” by washing dishes or loading the dishwasher, or cleaning g the stove.

And then there is the snow shoveling, cleaning up. Her 11y old sister help more than the little princess.

You raised the princess. Stop blaming her for you lack of parenting skills.

Anonymous wrote:This time in your life is short. My DD just had 3 friends here for 3 nights. They made great memories. Yes it was annoying I couldn't wear my regular PJs and slum it on the couch/fall asleep there but it was a few days.

I’m usually pretty laid back about her friends coming over, but right now I am feeling being take advantage of. It feels she only comes to me half sweet when she needs something.

Her grades are not that great because of slacking off this semester, she does her chores after pulling teeth, and only half assed because the princess doesn’t like, is “disgusted” by washing dishes or loading the dishwasher, or cleaning g the stove.

And then there is the snow shoveling, cleaning up. Her 11y old sister help more than the little princess.

This time in your life is short. My DD just had 3 friends here for 3 nights. They made great memories. Yes it was annoying I couldn't wear my regular PJs and slum it on the couch/fall asleep there but it was a few days.

For the fact her friends are here all the freaking time!

Last Saturday she went on a double date and she came back and brought 4 friends with her.

I specifically told her I wanted them to leave early because of the incoming snow storm.

Lo and behold, besides one girl, they stayed until 1:30am “waiting for a ride.” And my husband ended up having to drive one girl to her home.

Sunday, around 6pm one of those friends came back and slept over, leaving yesterday around 10am.

Today, there are 2 (soon to be 3) friends here, studying.

I HATE this! I want to enjoy my house and walk around in my ragged pjs without worrying about teens.

And what kind of parents just let their kids stay out in someone’s house until late like this without picking them up?? I can’t in good conscience make them leave, at night time, in the winter, just before a snowstorm.

I told her today they have to be out by 7pm. I’m tired of driving these kids around, or making my husband do it - don’t they have parents????