If you re serving alcohol to parents only, hire a bartender. I would not leave a bar area unattended.

To the OP whose DH wants the country club party. Let him plan it.

Mom of a senior here, planning on a party at my house. I really don’t want the seniors to drink at her grad party, I didn’t realize it was such a common thing at a daytime graduation party. My senior isn’t a drinker (I was at her age so not judging) so I don’t know the trends. I really don’t want kids drinking illegally on my property and then driving away! Are the kids good about assigning designated drivers? Should I just not serve alcohol?

Anonymous wrote:If you haven’t in your home, you’re gonna have teens drinking.

If you have it at a country club, you’re only gonna have teens show up for like a half hour before they move onto the next party.

What are you trying to do here?

This. If there is no kid drinking, they won’t stay. It sounds boring and too fancy for teens.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting a grad party at all? Each senior has their own party? Why individual parties? Arent the school grad events sufficient? And, yes, the teens are t going to stay - they are going to move on to the next party where they can drink more freely. You’re going to have a lot of no-shows.

One of my favorite parties I’ve ever been to was a graduation party thrown by a bunch of moms for a group of girls who were all friends because our moms were friends when we were little. We didn’t even go to the same schools, and the grads weren’t all close any more but it was the best vibes.

Anonymous wrote:I had my graduation party at the country club a hundred years ago. More recently, DD had her graduation party there, too. What’s the problem? Both parties, decades apart, were great, with lasting memories.

Are you talking about just family and a few friends? That is not what OP is talking about.

Anonymous wrote:I had my graduation party at the country club a hundred years ago. More recently, DD had her graduation party there, too. What’s the problem? Both parties, decades apart, were great, with lasting memories.

How many people? The post above is true that very few kids are going to show up at a party where basically they can’t drink.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you hosting a grad party at all? Each senior has their own party? Why individual parties? Arent the school grad events sufficient? And, yes, the teens are t going to stay - they are going to move on to the next party where they can drink more freely. You’re going to have a lot of no-shows.

+1

I had my graduation party at the country club a hundred years ago. More recently, DD had her graduation party there, too. What’s the problem? Both parties, decades apart, were great, with lasting memories.

Why are you hosting a grad party at all? Each senior has their own party? Why individual parties? Arent the school grad events sufficient? And, yes, the teens are t going to stay - they are going to move on to the next party where they can drink more freely. You’re going to have a lot of no-shows.

21:22 and I am changing my post completely. It is totally different than a birthday party. They stay at birthday parties. Graduation parties they come and go. This is a hard no. I am so glad my kid picked a vacation instead of a party.

But we will be doing this in 2 years with our next kid who will definitely want a big party at our house and that will run $$$$

If you haven’t in your home, you’re gonna have teens drinking.

If you have it at a country club, you’re only gonna have teens show up for like a half hour before they move onto the next party.

What are you trying to do here?

I also bet your club will discourage and say they need an exact number of guests and you can't have more than that showing up. Our club would go nuts. They staff based on numbers, let alone figure out how much food and drinks. And they aren 't going to help you police party crashers.

I am having this same conversation with my DD right now. I said no.

First, it is going to be almost as expensive as a wedding reception. (We belong to an expensive club)

Two, people come and go and you will have no idea when people will show up or how many. It could be huge, unless you are going to be very very exclusive or it could be a total bust.

I am a little sad we can't have a party for her. Our home has no good parking and people would never go for a shuttle bus from the nearby park. Last year I wen't to a friends party and she really encouraged ubers, but there were still more than a hundred cars in her neighborhood.

She is going to explore having a party with someone else. This is becoming very common. They are fun, you can splurge on things like a band, and helps with the issue of conflicting parties.

Good luck.

Can you afford it? If you can, I don't see what the bid deal is. My kids have gone to birthday parties at country clubs so how is this different?

And no, we don't belong to one. I have a senior who doesn't even want a party at all. But I would pay not to have it at my house if he did.

DH told DD she can have it there and hire an event planner. Of course being the level headed mom, I said no but what I say means nothing. I think this is outrageous and advised him he is setting a precedent for our other child’s party two years from now, never mind when the girls get married… doesn’t register.! And no, we’re not divorced so you think I would have more say.

I am going to navigate where I can. Anyone work with their club? I know not to give the actual number of expected oeople- should I say half the expected number? Time: 1-4 is the hour we plan to host. Help me plan, please..
questions I should ask club? I’ve never done this before.