I blocked my parents.

My mother, and then by extension, since I was a small child has not talked to me for extended periods of time (months and years). She literally acts like I don't exist and my father placates her so she doesn't turn her wrath on him (which inevitably happens anyway because she's a well that can never be filled).

The last time she decided I deserved the silent treatment was on 7/4/24. She cannot articulate why she's mad or what she wants, but the silent treatment and isolation are my punishment for my heinous infractions.

My parents still expected to be invited to my home for holidays (we always host). They came to my son's engagement party last year at my house and my mother refused to even look at me, even when I was standing next to her.

I'm 54 and am done with all of that. Things would be smoothed over if I contacted her and made nice, but it would all just happen again and again.

Anyway, after my father texted me on the holidays last year (why bother if you don't want to talk to me the rest of the year?), I decided I didn't care to hear from him. He didn't protect me from my mother's abuse and continues to placate her, so contact, if there ever is any, will be on my terms.

Anonymous wrote:How do you know your blocked? Will it just not dial or tell you your blocked?

If using iPhones, text will be green instead of blue.
If you try to call, you can leave a message but they will never hear it ring.

Because I don’t want to engage with someone and I owe them no explanation. They are not entitled to be on my phone screen and my life.

One was a guy I dated who was ok but would text me once I had a boyfriend. I blocked him because I don’t need random, sporadic messages.

Another was a friend with whom I had a falling out. She said and did some pretty heinous things and I just cut her off. It was very freeing and I don’t miss her and her senseless blathering + underhanded tactics. She became a jerk over the years.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know your blocked? Will it just not dial or tell you your blocked?

Single tick on any message you send them - which means it was not delivered. And after several days if it stays that way, either they havea phone problem or you are blocked.

WTH is a single tick? I have an Iphone. And apparently no drama. I don't even notice / know when things are "Read" or not. It seems very haphazard.

Anonymous wrote:I’m NC with my mom. She will have no avenue to me to continue abuse and cruelty. Blocked.

Good for you for taking care of yourself! I blocked a mentally sick relative, too.

Anonymous wrote:I have blocked people who have betrayed my trust and people who pushed me to a downward spiral mentally.

Reason for blocking: Protecting my mental health.

+1

My mentally ill sibling once called me eleven times in an hour. I was in a meeting.

They would also call me early every day multiple times a day and want to talk for an hour or more. I have no idea how they kept their job.

They gaslit me, lied about me to other people, and accused me of theft.

Blocking felt great! My health has improved, and I am much happier.

I have no idea who they hassle now, but I am glad it is not me!

I block a lot of spam numbers. I sometimes wonder if I'm blocking legit/real people, since I know most of the numbers are spoofed.

I’m NC with my mom. She will have no avenue to me to continue abuse and cruelty. Blocked.

I do not wish to have to preview your nonsense messages or be disturbed by you ever again.

Blocked

When I was dating, there were guys I would reject and they’d keep reaching out. It’s annoying to have to respond to their texts, easier to just block.

Anonymous wrote:How do you know your blocked? Will it just not dial or tell you your blocked?

Single tick on any message you send them - which means it was not delivered. And after several days if it stays that way, either they havea phone problem or you are blocked.

How do you know your blocked? Will it just not dial or tell you your blocked?

I block spammers.

My organization blocked a woman who was emailing me and other colleagues multiple times a day sending paranoid rantings.

I have blocked people who have betrayed my trust and people who pushed me to a downward spiral mentally.

Reason for blocking: Protecting my mental health.

Why do people do this? Doesn't it seem a little immature instead of not responding? I've not blocked anyone or been blocked to my knowledge. Genuinely curious about stories of who people are blocking and why.