Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How weird that they’re telling you how to dress. What event tells grown adults what to wear except maybe a wedding?

I went to a surprise 60th birthday party last year that said "business casual" so I wore black pants and a top that I wear to the office frequently. I was very underdressed and self conscious the entire night. Nearly everyone wore jackets/blazers, including the birthday celebrant.

Op here - one of my worries is this situation. With the elegant wording, it has me curious if this is going to be the case. Instead of saying smart casual or dinner attire, they’ve listed it as “casual elegant”.

Anonymous wrote:How weird that they’re telling you how to dress. What event tells grown adults what to wear except maybe a wedding?

I went to a surprise 60th birthday party last year that said "business casual" so I wore black pants and a top that I wear to the office frequently. I was very underdressed and self conscious the entire night. Nearly everyone wore jackets/blazers, including the birthday celebrant.

Anonymous wrote:Silk blouse and wide leg black pants with boots or pumps

Sweater with dark, wide leg jeans and sparkly jewelry

This.

Tuckernuck is maga, put those away. Sorry.
Anyway- Cashmere sweater, silk skirt, suede heeled boots.

Your normal clothes will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:Dress code for a LUNCH celebration? I wouldn’t wear jeans, but anything else is appropriate.

+1 i think this is what the invite was driving at. No jeans, loungewear, athletic, etc.

I’d personally do wide leg pants, nice sweater, boots.

Anonymous wrote:How weird that they’re telling you how to dress. What event tells grown adults what to wear except maybe a wedding?

The ones who do not want to see you in your leggings or athleta sets.

How weird that they’re telling you how to dress. What event tells grown adults what to wear except maybe a wedding?

Dress code for a LUNCH celebration? I wouldn’t wear jeans, but anything else is appropriate.

I’d do Eileen Fisher. A comfortable top in a luxurious fabric, with plain pants and elegant accessories.

https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/eileen-fisher-crewneck-crushed-velvet-blouse-prod284830722?childItemId=NMT6WUT_&msid=5054913&navpath=cat000000_cat000730_cat000045&page=0&position=1

Anonymous wrote:What size are you? Shape? Height?

The wide leg pants look great on skinny women, not so great on pear-shaped heavier person.

5’3, 145lbs, semi-hourglass (busty, small waist, thighs)

Thanks PPs!!

What size are you? Shape? Height?

The wide leg pants look great on skinny women, not so great on pear-shaped heavier person.

Silk blouse and wide leg black pants with boots or pumps

Sweater with dark, wide leg jeans and sparkly jewelry

Just add pearls and heels. Done

What do you envision when you hear “casual elegant”? I need some idea inspiration. The guest of honor is unaware of the event and I do not know the host very well to ask them directly. I typically wear Tuckernuck dresses in the summer but lack a lot of not casual winter options.

Link or paste photos if you are able. Thank you in advance!!