Have his father speak to him on this.

Anonymous wrote:Or it may not happen. I had a friend who was incredibly wealthy but had a high pitched voice like a woman. It definitely set him back. His voice finally deepened in his mid thirties, we speculated he must have gotten some kind of surgery

That’s….really unusual, and very unlikely to be the case for a kid in early puberty.

It typically happens right after or simultaneously with the big growth spurt. Many boys have not yet had that at newly 14.

Or it may not happen. I had a friend who was incredibly wealthy but had a high pitched voice like a woman. It definitely set him back. His voice finally deepened in his mid thirties, we speculated he must have gotten some kind of surgery

It will happen

For my son it was mid 15

Everyone kind of has their cross to bear, that thing that makes them insecure. Talk to him about it. It is okay for him to have whatever feelings he does. Your role as a parent is to support him through it, help him cope and build resilience - not take away the challenge or insecurity. This is well within developmental norms.

Anonymous wrote:I have the same issue with my 14 year old. His pediatrician said we could go to a speech therapist specializing in voice if we wanted... my son does want to but I've had trouble finding one.

DS is fine around kids he already knows but he's reluctant to meet new people. He's had a few people say "Is that your real voice?" He's otherwise progressing through puberty normally - added several inches, hair in all the right places, etc.

OP here - really? A speech therapist? I figured my son was just slightly delayed in puberty and his voice will eventually change as normal. He physically appears to be a late developer, very few outward signs of puberty. Has not had a growth spurt yet. I didn’t realize this was considered a problem needing intervention at this age?

Puberty and development are just wonky. My almost 20 year old college athlete son (with a deep voice since 14) came home for winter break and celebrated…armpit hair. Yep, he’s got his first one. Someday soon he may actually have to shave more than once a month.

It’s wildly inconsistent kid to kid, but we’ve found there are clues within families. My brother also didn’t get body hair until he was in his very late teens, whereas my husband had to shave early. My son seems to follow my family’s genetics in many ways so we shouldn’t be surprised.

Tell your son to hang in there, and recognize that others are developing unevenly too. Maybe he can pride himself on his mental development. He may be waaaay ahead of other boys there!

I have the same issue with my 14 year old. His pediatrician said we could go to a speech therapist specializing in voice if we wanted... my son does want to but I've had trouble finding one.

DS is fine around kids he already knows but he's reluctant to meet new people. He's had a few people say "Is that your real voice?" He's otherwise progressing through puberty normally - added several inches, hair in all the right places, etc.

My 14 year old is late too. Same as his older brother. He switches his voice to a fake deeper version when certain people are around. It’s silly but we love it.

My son turned 14 in August and his voice still hasn’t deepened yet. He is growing taller though. It isn’t a problem and he shouldn’t worry about it. His freinds do sound mean.

DS is newly 14 and seems to be on the late side for puberty and all the changes that go along with it. Recently he has become very self-conscious about his “little kid voice,” and I have gathered that some of his friends have poked fun if it a bit, although I think they are doing it in fun and he is not truly hurt. I do think he feels a little embarrassed as most of his friends seem to be farther along in puberty and have passed him in height/size and development, along with sounding like teenage boys rather than prepubescent children.

Is this very late for there to be no change in voice yet? We have not yet had his 14 yr check up but the doctor did not seem concerned about his development last year. I am not sure what to tell DS to build his confidence during this awkward time. Sometimes he resorts to purposefully trying to lower his voice but can only maintain it for a word or two. I was a late developer myself but as a girl my experiences/worries were different so it’s hard to reassure him through my own experiences (DH, conversely, was an early developer). Any advice welcome!