Anonymous wrote:There was a friends episode about this.

Lol, first thing that came to mind. Of course the whole point was that Phoebe was a little cray cray. The women OP is referring to sound like utter twits.

This site is for adults.

There was a friends episode about this.

I've had dreams where I'm angry at my husband or mother, and it's because I've had real-life, legitimate conflicts with them that apparently my unconscious has trouble resolving. So the following day, I'm not mad at them, but I'm a little sad that their past behavior has been dredged up again in dream form.

I have never had dreams where I am angry at someone that I haven't had conflict with in real life.

Your brain is basic

Your friends are little cray cray.

They are dumb.

I've had dreams where my husband has done something that hurt my feelings and touches on a major insecurity of mine. It generally stems from something small and then it gets blown up in my dream, so it's not real in that in real life I don't think he'd do that but because it involves him and real things I worry about, it feels big upon waking up. I don't get mad at him because of what he did in my dream, but I may carry the feeling of sadness that I woke up with into my day for a bit and I can sometimes then be overly sensitive if something is said or done that feels related to the dream.

If I had to guess, I wonder if your friends woke up mad and then their husbands did something to annoy them immediately and so that, compounded with the dream, led them to be angry the whole day. Or their husbands did something that felt related to the dream - like one of them said he cheated because she never remembers how he takes his coffee and then that morning he says something about the coffee (not even meanly, necessarily, just bringing it up) and it triggers her.

Rationally, of course, it doesn't make sense to be mad at someone for something they didn't do, but since it's probably somewhat related to real life, I could see how it might affect you for the day (although I do think it's childish to not talk to someone period, especially when the reason is something they did in your dream).

Given her go to is silent treatment, she isn't a very good person to begin with so not that surprising that she is punishing him for a dream.

I have very vivid, realistic dreams and it sometimes takes me a few minutes upon waking to shake the emotional state the dream invoked and parse out reality from the dream.
But to hold it against the person in your dream is crazy and unfair.

Emotions are imaginary and people who don’t ever learn how to control them are the people you’re talking about.

My husband is one of those people and I have never understood how that works.
I went to a birthday dinner Saturday evening and a friend mentioned how she spent the entire day not speaking to her husband because she had a dream that he cheated on her. Another friend chimes in that she has done that too.

I feel like my dreams must not be as deeply involved as theirs. I very rarely dream of my spouse or kids and it’s never with both. It’s usually me in some random celebrity’s life or me on some adventure in a dystopian world with pastel colors. I can’t ever recall being angry or feeling any real emotion in my dreams outside of fear if I’m lost in the dystopian world or being chased by someone.