Anonymous wrote:If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens

Unless you already have kids?

That’s not entirely true. I met several men when dating in my 40s who were looking for a life partner in the first place. Being a dad was secondary. Men are not as “paternal” as women. Compatibility matters the most for them in all areas. And the men shared they wouldn’t oppose medical technologies or adoption if their partner is too old to have kids naturally
What they did share was negative experience with women in late 30s who rushed them to marry and have kids

If a man wants kids or even might want kids, he'd be foolish to date a 38 year old. Op, you ought to separate-out the two issues. Know IF you want kids -- and if you do, make it happen solo. That's the priority here. Second issue (separate) is letting a good partner/marriage relationship happen, if it happens

Unless you already have kids?

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Anonymous wrote:What are your looks ? Work on your exterior so you are the top profile in your age group .

I’m late 40s and men within 5 years of my age certainly match me. But I see my profile is popular (the League for example gives you clicks stats I’m all-star on that app).

I’m thin and pretty/cute…probably a 6.

Try to get unbiased opinions on your profile photos. It has to be both attractive face and the body maybe work on your hair style skincare or makeup . Face needs to be 8-9 by AI ranking programs

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Anonymous wrote:Are you looking to find a life partner, or just out having fun and enjoying the companionship?

If the former, 35 to 45. If the latter, 30 to 50.

No reason she can’t go younger for a life partner as well. 4-5 years is not a huge age gap.

Yes 5 years either direction for a life partner .
Don’t do 10 years it will feel even worse when he’s over 55 and you mid 40s

She needs to have a really perfect body to date younger men

Anonymous wrote:What are your looks ? Work on your exterior so you are the top profile in your age group .

I’m late 40s and men within 5 years of my age certainly match me. But I see my profile is popular (the League for example gives you clicks stats I’m all-star on that app).

I’m thin and pretty/cute…probably a 6.

Im 36yo and dating a 40yo. I dont think id go higher than that personally.

What are your looks ? Work on your exterior so you are the top profile in your age group .

I’m late 40s and men within 5 years of my age certainly match me. But I see my profile is popular (the League for example gives you clicks stats I’m all-star on that app).

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking to find a life partner, or just out having fun and enjoying the companionship?

If the former, 35 to 45. If the latter, 30 to 50.

No reason she can’t go younger for a life partner as well. 4-5 years is not a huge age gap.

Anonymous wrote:Lower it to 30. Early 30s men are great.

I agree with this even/especially if you want to get married. Between a somewhat late bloomer 30-something who may be looking to get married and an “experienced” 48 year old who has finally gotten the picture that he needs to get working on a family … the younger guy is a better prospect for many reasons. I think there are more 30-35 yr old guys around here who would like to settle down than people assume.

Are you looking to find a life partner, or just out having fun and enjoying the companionship?

If the former, 35 to 45. If the latter, 30 to 50.

Anonymous wrote:If you're just out to have fun, that's different. But you've been doing that all along. Or are you back dating after a bad divorce?

Bad divorce after a toxic marriage. Did NOT expect to be here. ☹️

Lower it to 30. Early 30s men are great.

If you're just out to have fun, that's different. But you've been doing that all along. Or are you back dating after a bad divorce?

OP, what are your goals? Adopt kids? Hire a surrogate? Go to a spermbank?

No guy in their late thirties matches with me. I have my filters set to 37-45.

Currently I’m dating a 41 year old and a 48 year old.

Is this the right age range for me? The 48 year old feels too old, tbh.